How do I stop my BBW / big white woman porn addiction?

The way to rewire your brain is the same no matter what your particular "niche" is--you simply need to stop your PMO habit long enough for your brain to start creating new neuropathways.

It's very simple in theory, but brutally difficult in practice. You can help yourself by putting a porn filter or blocker on your devices--preferably a filter that you don't control. And find as many as many 'healthy habits' as you can to fill the void you'll naturally feel from not having access to BBW porn--learn an instrument, get to the gym, find a good book to read, volunteer somewhere--anything you can shift your focus to when the urges hit.

There's nothing inherently wrong with being attracted to BBWs. Everyone has their own tastes. But you won't know whether or not it's a porn-induced fetish until you spend some time away from those stimuli and can think about your sexual interests with a clear head.

 

Don't fall for this illusion. Sexual desires never require fulfillment. You might desire them to be fulfilled, but nothing unhealthy will happen to your body if they aren't. No one has ever died from a lack of sex.

It's very common to hear people talk about their "sexual needs," but no one has sexual needs. We have sexual desires, which is different. Food, water, air, and shelter are needs. Sex is not.

It depends on what you want. If your goal is to make it to 90 days--and you achieve that--then what? Some guys aren't seeking an entire lifetime away from PMO, they just want it to have less control over their lives.

And I suspect that the longer you spend time away from PMO, and the more you work on yourself and pursuing your own goals--then you'll be much more likely to have experiences with real partners and you'll enjoy sex far more than you ever would in the midst of a PMO haze.

 

Great! Keep up the good work! And yes, you'll still struggle. But that's part of the process. You're going to struggle. But you don't have to cave every time you feel an urge.

Do you have any kind of filter or block on your devices? If not, why not? Even if it just gives you a small obstacle or speed-bump between you and porn, isn't that at least a little bit helpful?

Feelings always pass. If you're horny, go out for a walk. Eventually the lust will subside and you can get back to your day. You don't have to react to arousal. You can just allow it to pass.

Imagine, for a second, if every single time your best friend got angry, they punched a hole in the wall. You'd probably assume they have a serious problem controlling their anger, right? You'd probably say, "dude--why do you have to punch a wall? Just because you're angry doesn't mean you have to destroy things." A functional adult can be angry, and just allow the anger to subside ... OR they can find a healthy way to vent it. It's the same way with sexual arousal.

 

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You didn't live well, I suspect, because you were still focusing on your lack of sexual fulfillment. You'll always feel unfulfilled if you think happiness is somewhere other than where you are right now. Happiness that comes from external circumstances will always be temporary. You have to find contentment in your current season of life. Plus, you have all sorts of opportunities to make huge moves and improve yourself as a single guy compared to if you're in a relationship. The time you'd be spending with a partner right now can be spent improving your skillset, getting more in shape, ratcheting up your intelligence--and all that will make you even more attractive.

Also, don't fall into the trap of assuming the struggle will go away once you have a partner. Many men say "I'll stop PMO as soon as I get married, because then I'll have a healthy sexual outlet." It almost never works that way. Having a partner feels like a good deterrent now because you don't have one--but human nature is very fickle. Eventually we get used to our situations, but the addicted brain still craves that dopamine hit. So just be guarded.

There's nothing inherently wrong with liking BBW/curvy women. One of the hottest sexual partners I've ever had was a BBW who absolutely ruined me. Some of the best sex ever (and I've had a lot). I'm not turned on by skinny women at all. Plus, the whole 'thicc/curvy' look is distinctly feminine, so it's not surprising to see that body type becoming more and more sexualized.

But in the end, you gotta stop worrying about your attraction to those women and worry more about sobriety. When you've got a clear head that isn't jacked-up on porn, you'll be able to better discern if this attraction comes from a healthy place or not.

Now, if a woman is obese to the point that it's a huge detriment to her health, that's a problem. But there's no problem with being attracted to a certain type of woman. It's no different than men who prefer blondes over brunettes, or women who prefer black guys over other racial groups. Everyone gets to discriminate, for any reason, when it comes to who they're sexually attracted to.

I highly recommend Covenant Eyes. It's $17/mo but it will help enormously. It's a filter, but it also takes periodic screenshots of your browser activity and gives your accountability partner(s) a weekly report that shows if you've been looking at any suspicious content. Huge deterrent from PMO for me.

 

It depends on what you mean by "doomed." Will it always be a part of your story and will you always have the option to recall those memories (and perhaps even some of those images)? Sure. But it doesn't mean your life always has to be ruled by porn and that your brain will forever be addicted to the dopamine hit. The brain has a remarkable ability to change ... certain behaviors got it addicted, and certain behaviors can get it un-addicted.

It really varies widely, depending on when a user started watching porn, how severely they got addicted, etc. Most guys in recovery note measurable improvements in their energy, clarity, and confidence after as little as 30 days. But the longer you go, the more your brain can recalibrate and find some level of normalcy.

Dr. Patrick Carnes, who's sort of the godfather of sex addiction research, estimates that it takes 3-5 years for the brain to truly heal. And those years will pass whether you're in recovery or not, so why not try? But don't think about the length of time. Just try and make it through today. And then tomorrow, just try to make it through tomorrow. And so on. You got this.

 

I was also once interested in bbw porn but only for a very short amount of time... It could be a porn induced fetish, you can fight it with NoFap.

Good luck! You can do it!

 

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