Overcoming social anxiety...

Yes, I notice tremendous improvements the longer I progress at NoFap.

Granted I never really had 'social anxiety' per se, it's more like I am shy and timid and preserving my sexual energy turns me into a completely different person.

A fun loving, positive, motivated, energetic, cheerful guy that people love to be around (in real life) .

I am not shy around anybody offline these days. And I tend to control group situations (with people who do not do NoFap nor practice sexual transmutation, my high levels of sexual energy get channeled into being a completely indomitable social monster) granted my celibate friends adept in the art of sex transmutation are still more social than me

Everybody has a different experience

Btw if I fapped today I wouldn't want to be around anybody or leave my house tomorrow, that is how drastic the difference is for me, night and day.

 

Haha you laughin at my signature?!

 

How about this song?

 

So 1984?

Ya it is part of my sig I was referring to it in that sense

Copied from another site:
"
“Crushed” is the second single from Parkway Drive’s forthcoming album IRE. Frontman Winston McCall explained that this song represents a continuation of Parkway Drive’s musical evolution.

Lyrically this song deals with the concept of power and control that is the basis for modern society. We live in a time when the lives of the many are lived at the will of the few. Filter information and deceit are used as controls while we are told to fear and persecute rather than understand and sympathise. We have let the balance of power slip so far that a godlike will is able to be imposed upon the masses with little to no way of breaking the cycle."

Sometimes things aren't as they seem, appearances can be deceiving.

Now back to social anxiety, have you been diagnosed with it? Or self diagnosed? Do you make an effort to have at least one social interaction a day?

 

To get through whatever vice you are personally battling, you need to better understand what you're actually fighting. Many times it's disguised as porn, or masturbation, or whatever the issue may personally be. But it really just comes down to normalizing dopamine levels in your brain. When your jerk it and watch porn you spike your dopamine levels so much over time that it no longer reacts to the dopamine release from real life experiences; in your case social anxiety.

Hypothetically when those levels normalize by cutting out dopamine short cuts like social media "likes", PMO, video games, whatever it is you personally abuse, then yes, your social anxiety will get better.

That's not to say it will go away. Social anxiety is a neurological process that dates back to the beginning of man, and is a vastly outdated program. Again, better understanding what social anxiety actually is, and why, neurologically, it happens, will help you get over it. In short, it stems from back when we traveled in tribes and you only met maybe 20 women in your life, 5 of whom were cream of the crop for replication. If you fucked up with that small margin of women, your seed would be weeded out, and your legacy forever extinguished. Back then social anxiety made sense. Now you'll never meet every woman (or man) alive, so you can fuck up infinitely and be ok.

But I hope you don't think that this will magically go away if you quit PMO. There are no shortcuts. It takes work and getting uncomfortable. Go out and put yourself in situations that terrify you. Easier said then done, but that's the only thing that really got anyone anywhere when it comes to things they want to be better at. Go out and talk to girls. Talk to guys. Make friends. If you want to talk to someone do it and don't be afraid of what happens. Be yourself unapologetically, that's really what attracts people anyway. And when you do talk to that girl and you crash and burn horribly, you'll look back and be like that wasn't so fuckin' bad, it was actually fun and exhilarating as hell. You gotta jump in head first and learn how to swim. That's it. There will come a day when you've hit rock bottom with it and are sick of not doing what you want to do and you'll dive in. That's all there is to it.

Godspeed.

 

Agreed 100000%. I just implore that once you are healed, you jump into the fire. That is what will really make the difference.

 

Ithink some people are less spontaneous / risk-taking / . For those people smaller steps might be helpful. I started reading a website to help with attraction and have found it very insightful & helpful. Am sure that there will be other literature or websites to build stepping stones in knowledge, which could encourage practice and result in new skills. If I find any good websites or books I'll try to remember to share them.
Ithink this kind of thing is quite personal, so finding something that one personally likes to read is key. So, keep looking if any recommendations don't suit.