day 22 - struggling massively going mad

Get out of bed, you've come too far to start all over again, you know you'll feel the guilt.
Hang in there bro!

 

Edging is a serious destruction for rebooting my friend. Try to meditate or do something as sports, yoga or exercise. Check out this book ''Focusing'' by Eugene T. Gendlin. I have came across that book when I was reading a success story here. I can say it's a cool one. Stay Strong!

 

Hi numpty, has December been treating you? Are you sure visiting the dating sites and trying to get laid is helping you? When you focus on two polar opposite goals at the same time, you might not succeed at either one! Multi-tasking like that doesn't seem to work well for you. I'd like to say it is like putting the cart before the horse, but the picture I see is more like a chariot race out of Ben Hur. It is exciting, but you end up with a bunch of wreckage along the way.

 

Serious, dude, try this: If you're in bed or if you can lie down in bed, put a cold ice compress or ice pack (covered with a cloth or above your undershorts - never ice directly on skin) on your scrotal area. It will deliver a slow, penetrating coolness to your balls that will numb any sexual heat in your groin and in your mind as well. Watch how it sends the tempting thoughts away so quickly, and you will sleep like a baby tonight.

 

No, cold makes the scrotum contract, not expand. As a regulator of temperature only, the scrotum tightens and pushes the testicles toward the heated body (98.6) when in the cold (as when ice pack is used), whereas when the testicles get too warm near the body, the scrotum expands and pushes the testicles away from it.

Also I do not equate the ice pack technique with the cold shower. With the shower, one gets agitated and tense and worked up by the cold, most of the water is hitting the body and not so much the scrotum anyway, and having one's junk out and swinging wildly all over the place is a recipe for arousal as well. None of this happens with the ice experience as I described it in my post: rather, the ice pack method produces an experience that is restful and calming (not exciting lust), within a controlled small area (not the entire epidermus), the organs are away and secure within one's underwear (not swinging or being touched in a shower or stimulated in anyway), and the cold is slow and soothing and comforting (not bracing, eye-popping, and blood curdling as in showers - all recipes for excitement). Indeed, I too actually find cold showers useless for calming arousal - but I was not advocating cold showers at all for this purpose. The cold shower is indeed useful for other purposes - like building stamina for enduring discomfort, thus translating into building one's stamina and tolerance of discomfort and pain in many other areas of life. However, this latter goal was not the purpose of my post. My purpose was to numb temptation, to quell the lusty heat in the groin (or blue balls even), and calming the wildly heated thoughts in the brain. Even when one thinks it's all in the head and not the balls, it's amazing how the ice-pack treatment on the groin area still drives out the lusty thoughts and temptations that exhaust one's willpower into a PMO downfall. It actually works if you'd only try it and not equate it with cold showers. They're not the same. Although, for some guys, a cold shower can indeed benefit this way depending how they employ the shower and how it suits their own physiology.

 

Well, no one's forcing you...good luck with what's working for you.