I never really liked porn, but I have been masturbating since I was 18. Almost always it happens in bed before sleep. How can I stop that?
The best way is to buy a pair of pyjamas with zippers or tying laces on the pants to make it harder for your hands to wander down there
don't go to bed until you are really tired, or try praying or mediation before sleeping, or try to have a workout or a walk before sleeping as a daily routine.
Tell yourself that it's ok to have those feelings, and that having urges doesn't mean you have to act on them. And going to bed when you're tired like @A.ARN said is a good idea too, just don't let yourself get too tired because feeling tired makes it hard to resist urges.
equate the urge to fap to slamming ur head with a hammer we cant separate action from consequence action of slamming head with hammer causes physical pain action of fapping causes mental discomfort but visualizing slamming head with hammer is easier to remember action leads to consequences. we cant say: i like to slam head with hammer but i dont want the pain just as we cant say i like to fap but i dont want the consequences
I have a lot of problem with this. Before sleeping is the time I invariably struggle and give in. I try hugging pillows to stop my hands from wandering. Of course it fails many times, not been able to develop the willpower.
This is a very interesting comparison. If we felt pain the next day after slamming our heads with hammer, the analogy would be even closer. In fact, the day after masturbation I usually feel drained of life energy.
Guys, it's often been said that the way to break a bad habit is to replace it with a new harmless one. Add some new different ritual to your going-to-bed routine. For me, I started making and drinking a cup of hot decaf or herbal tea as the last thing before bed. The heat, flavor, and filling nature of it distract me from those other feelings that I have about that time. I go right to sleep without delay.
I understand this! You're the first dude I've met on here so far that has this problem too. I don't like porn really either. I just like the masturbation which I'm trying to stop. If you would like an Ap id love to join you.
