my really big issue with women

I know exactly what you need my friend.
I did not have the exact same problem as you, but I still got off quicker than I would have liked during intercourse with my wife.

As far as masturbation, think of it as your testing bed in the future after you research and practice the below mentioned methods.

First, you can get control over how quickly you ejaculate. So have faith, this is a fixable issue. It is not some disease or problem with you.

Here are the methods and tools I used to help me last longer:

#1: Kegel exercises. (A must!)
These are squeezing exercises (squeezing your butt hole, stopping urination) for your pelvic muscles. The stronger your pelvic floor, the more control you have over anything leaving your penis. Also, once the basic kegel is mastered, you can move onto reverse kegels, (which will help put pressure in the penis and stop the nerves from feeling any sensation). THIS IS THE MOST HELPFUL EXERCISE YOU WILL DO.

#2: Edging.
This is basically masturbating until you reach the point of no return, and then stopping. This will help you test your progress, and also keep your mind focused on being familiar with "the point of no return".

#3: Stretching/Lengthening Exercises. (The weirdest one)
I only did this for a little while, then determined I didn't have the time nor determination to keep it up. There are exercises you can do to stretch and expand the penis. When I was practicing these, I noticed I felt less sensation in the penis overall. Might help you to reduce the feelings in the tissue.

A good site to read up on all this is (warning, may have triggering images)
http://www.goodlookingloser.com/get-hung/ultimate-guide-to-edging
http://www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/kegels-for-men

Eventually I plan on doing PE for another block of time, but I can't right now due to work requirements.
Just like exercising your body, doing exercises for your penis will build your confidence and endurance... Both good things to have in the sack. Eventually, this won't be a problem for you. Take the stuff above seriously, and you will make progress.

 

Hi OP, I must say that, in my eyes, the post above is not entirely correct. Edging is basically one of the worst thing there is (article: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/what-if-i-use-porn-without-orgasm). Just a heads up. Good luck ✌.

Mótus

 

Well said @Mótus. Do not edge while trying to recover from a porn-induced dopamine addiction. Leave your junk alone too.

 

You can edge without the use of porn. I did it without porn, and it still works to increase your endurance.

Don't knock it till you try it.

Also, did you know that it is actually bad for you to go too long without ejaculation? You can get an inflamed testicle. (Has happened to 2 people I've known who did not masturbate). Eventually, you are going to need to release the semen buildup. You can achieve this through wet dreams, sex, or healthy masturbation.

Anyway, I gave you some tools that grown men use to build up their endurance. They are known to work, they are tested and proven, and they will help you with what you desired.

If you are not ever going to masturbate again... Then you have nothing to practice with other than kegels and real live women.

Use your own mind to decide what you are able to do within your own limits.
I personally know I could edge without the use of porn.

Ensure you know the same before you try.

 

Indeed you can. That doesn't mean it is advisable for someone trying to recalibrate artificial overstimulation of dopamine. Did you even read the source material provided by @Mótus? This is something that @traveler may chose after he has rebooted his neural pathways to 'factory settings'. But it will disable his healing and rewiring to do it during the process.

 

At some level you have trained your body to get what your mind wants. You can actually take some pride in that. You are feeling conflicted now because it seems too efficient?
Rather than adding stress by comparing yourself to others you should give a little thought to what your mind really wants. You want intense joy and you know that sex is part of this. But get real: sex is not about getting an orgasm. It's an easy mind trap to fall in and whether you are fucking yourself or some else's momentarily impressive body does not really matter. The solution is simpler than it may appear: fulfilling sex is about giving not getting. And it has little to do with sex organs too. It is not some difficult mind over matter thing: the truth of this is inside you. Obviously you need to get out of the viscous addictive mental fog of the MO cycle... and along the way you should consider that thinking of your dick as an object that some gives you real happiness is a myth, an easy lie you, or silly shortcut you tell yourself: it's a distraction from the real thing. And once you starting looking for the real thing your supposed problem will cease to matter and you may likely also notice that it will cease to be there.

 

Ah sorry that was cryptic: love, intimacy, connection. The sex part is almost a distraction to this, especially for me, because I felt it was the most important thing for so many years. And it just isn't it only seems that way because it makes a bigger bang.

It's helped a lot of guys, getting to the point where 'scoring' with sex is no longer important will help you in all kinds of others way too
Good luck bro. You can do this.