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Is it a dysfunction or just what I want?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by MuzztecAFC, Jan 2, 2016.

  1. Jan 2, 2016 #1
    MuzztecAFC

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    I hear people say quitting porn so they see women in a certain way rather than sex objects they use as a flash light, quitting porn having some end goal of being able to go into a healthy long term relo.

    Well am I dysfunctional if deep down inside myself I just want to sleep with many girls, till I get that out of my system, build experiences, learn what women are like and want, learn how to please them and so forth. Experiencing many types of bodies, faces, shapes, sizes, personalities and professions.

    Do I think this because of porn, although with women I don't see them as porn fantasies but I do want to explore things like 3 and 4somes like I have seen in porn, but isn't that what most guys want, even from before the times of porn people had multiple mistresses and wives depending where you look.

    I am trying to work out if it is me or the porn.

    I have experienced a 2 year relo where I was dedicated and faithful, but I felt it wasn't for me and that I don't really want to get in another one for a long time after spending time alone and thinking about it. I just want to have multiple women in my life, spend more time with the ones who I click with and less time with the ones I am just physically attracted to.
     
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  2. Jan 2, 2016 #2
    wabifap

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    What have you got to lose by giving up porn for a while to experience first hand if it's right for you or not? You're interested in varies types of sexual experiences, why not try the opposite just to see how it looks from the other side, to see if you can challenge yourself to do something that you don't really want to do. There is purpose in doing the things we don't want to do, a lot of life is doing things that we don't think we want to do - but some of those things can end up being things that actually grow on you.
     
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  3. Jan 2, 2016 #3
    MuzztecAFC

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    I find giving up porn and not fapping, gives me much more motivation to go meet and sleep with even more girls
     
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  4. Jan 2, 2016 #4
    Brasileiro

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    No, not dysfunctional... But you gotta remind that this is real life, so it's not gonna be like we saw in those videos. And it's not easy to trick 2+ girls into a thing like that... But good luck. And if you succeed, I'll be your padawan :)
     
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  5. Jan 2, 2016 #5
    MuzztecAFC

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    I got a Bi-sexual girl who is down, then the girl I had over last week said she wouldn't mind trying it, so when I get back from my holiday I am going to set it up
     
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  6. Jan 3, 2016 #6
    Kickthatfap

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    Anybody else see the wolf hiding in the Bush? Do you realize that doing a three some will set your progress back? You will not be able to achieve the next level of your life if you remain in bondage to your sexual fantasies. NoFap is about bettering yourself as a person. Becoming a better version of yourself. I guarantee you will have chaser effect like a bitch if you go through with your conquest. So do you really want to waste all that time just to realize you fucked up and are back to where you started, a sex addict?
     
    Kickthatfap, Jan 3, 2016
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  7. Jan 3, 2016 #7
    MuzztecAFC

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    Interesting I thought because it is real and not fantasy it would help. I have done some deep thinking and such after my last relationship and I do feel the need to get a lot of things out of my system like crazy parties with hot girls, sleeping with many girls and getting more experiences, could be a manifestation of my porn addiction, but in my relo all I had urges of was to sleep with other women
     
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  8. Jan 3, 2016 #8
    Kickthatfap

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    Did you know that every time you sleep with a girl you are giving a peice of your soul to her? Do you really want to just give yourself away to people you may barely know like that. Plus you may have to deal with drama and bullshit that could have been avoided if you just exhibited some self control. You are not a scum bag man whore. You are a human being that is way more valuable than your sexual experiences. Don't believe the bullshit lie about getting it out your system. You need to keep it in your system and transform it into gold.
     
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  9. Jan 3, 2016 #9
    MuzztecAFC

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    Sorry but I do not agree with your views on the world, I respect your opinion from a religious perspective but I do not think like that at all, I think sex is a wonderful thing, that we need to stop being so anal about. Society says don't have sex, girls are sluts if they have sex, here watch porn, or buy XYZ to get girls to like you. I have unplugged from that crap. I see short term relationships with multiple women of less drama as what I am doing now is way way less drama and emotional pain that my long term relationship I had.

    After what you said above has given me a clear answer as I think deeper, I am not dysfunction, I am doing what I want, and going down the path is what brought me to wanting to quit porn, if I followed your thought I would be watching porn and fapping all day long.

    I guess the true deep me wants to sleep with and give as many girls as possible amazing orgasms and experiences, I am also practicing tantra with my no PMO, holding my seed in and circulating my energy when I am with women, try and breath my energy into them
     
    MuzztecAFC, Jan 3, 2016
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  10. Jan 3, 2016 #10
    Kickthatfap

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    Cool. Sounds like a plan to me. I hope everything goes the way you want.
     
    Kickthatfap, Jan 3, 2016
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  11. Jan 3, 2016 #11
    wabifap

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    And there's your problem. You've experienced emotional pain, but do you feel like you're dealing with this issue rationally, or is fear and pride making up your decision to go down the less emotionally risky path? That said, don't believe that promiscuity is without its pains as well. Of course everyone is different, but I always believed that we are all more alike than we are different. Eventually I believe people who lead promiscuous lives have the same potential for emotion pain as people who've been hurt in long term relationships.

    I don't think you can run away from emotional pain through promiscuity, even if at first it feels amazing, there will be a fall. But that's just my opinion.
     
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  12. Jan 3, 2016 #12
    MuzztecAFC

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    It was more so emotional pain of not being allowed to sleep with other girls I saw go past, being forced against freedom to do what I want is what caused the most pain
     
    MuzztecAFC, Jan 3, 2016
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