If you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, you will. Will power alone isn't enough to get through 30 days hard mode. I guess I will have to change my habits. 1) Keep my phone far away from my bed 2) Recognise weak moments and opportunities in the day. Meditate during those urges 3) No hands in the pants except taking it off to shower Well, I believe in the power of 3. Simplicity is key. Less is more. Updating my progress based on these 3 personal practices. Wish me luck. Maybe not, for it cannot be upon luck that I quit porn. Let me show you its these 3 practices that work wonders
Will power is not always enough. It might be enough to quit a PMO addiction, but only together with a good strategy (like avoiding triggers etc.) A strong why doesn't make your will power infinite, there are limits.
Well then it seems I just can't fly because my why is not strong enough, I always thought there were some physical reasons for it.
I shall post when I succeeded beating down my urges (or riding it out or letting it pass). At least it gives me something tangible to look forward to after the battle. I bet I will be spamming. Maybe after a week I will cut it down to a day's tally.
Will power needs to be strong enough to resist. This is irrefutable, as the Will is the crossroads where the battle plays itself out every time. We either resist, or acquiesce. Question for all of us is how do we strengthen the Will. In my opinion, healthier emotions lead to a strengthened Will. This from another thread, where I like to make a few observations on the Will, which we want to strengthen, and Representations, which always tend to absolve us from taking responsibility for our actions: This site is a good reminder that we live midst an emotional holocaust, and that, in our modern world, an emphasis on outer prosperity seems to have led to inner poverty. Perhaps this has to do with some law of energy conservation or other.... Wow, just got myself a date with a girl in the coffee shop I'm sitting in! Just got to say hello!^^ Anyway, I reckon the prime cause for this emotional holocaust has to be our lack of connecting our emotions with the outer world. They were designed to flow, to engage with the world, to feel the world, and be conscious of it. Anything contrary to this must be seen, by us who are recovering, as unhealthy. And what is more contrary to consciousness than self-consciousness? Here the mind turns in on itself, and goes on to 'represent' the world to itself [lust for power]. Reality becomes a caricature, stripped of its essential character, a husk of its former self, something like atoms in a void and abstract force. E=MC2 and the like. The task of reconstruction is to reVIVE/ recharge our emotions in ourselves by re-connecting with the world. Bracket all false representations [for us primarily technology and science] and take the world as we feel it. What better way to do this than through music and poetry. Viva la revolution [in us]! E=MC2 Emotion= Mystery of Consciousness2 Oh, and good luck brother!
"Why" always pop up in my head when I have weak minute.. and that "WHY" is the warrior that kills the urge and gives me power to go on!!! Work on your "WHY" - the "WHY" stands in the opposite side of where you actually going, it is like a compass! When you are lost - look at your compass.. and you have your direction again! Good luck to everyone!
Reason is over-rated people. The most devious of afflictions will twist mere reason about like the little toy and instrument it is. Warriors have a heroic Will!
Tough call but I shall adopt a new strategy I read from another thread. Doing the same thing but expecting different results is insanity. Let me try a new strategy. Instead of going cold turkey. I shall cut porn but allow M and O for 7 days starting from now. After that, I shall eliminate M and O if I succeed. Dont judge, let's see.
So badly that I don't want to relapse (actually have zero urges) and even if I will never have my lobido fixed to an acceptable level I will NEVER ever maturate anymore, that's how strongwilled and angry I am.
