I've been rebooting since late October, early November. Doing good, careful to avoid triggers. Getting a healthy outlook about myself and sexual health. A girl who I kinda always had a thing for came in to town this week and we went out and afterwards went back to her hotel. I won't go into all the shameful details, but it was a total disaster. She was very nice and understanding and said she just enjoyed being held. That made it even worse for me. This brought about major cracks in my self-esteem, and my sexual confidence. I'm going to the doctor soon for my regular checkup and I'm going to discuss somethings with him. I'm also thinking about seeing Sex Surrogate. I was wondering did anyone else have a disastrous first time after rebooting? If so how did you deal with it?
Nah, during my first ever reboot I managed to O with a partner 21 days in, third encounter. Before hand, I had PIED. This is my second run at NOFAP as I developed PIED again through bad habits, and times in my life. I did manage to go around 10 months with out porn and about five months without MO. Long story short, I fapped to porn the last two months straight, 2-3 times on average a day... and I couldn't maintain a full erection with a new partner, after getting back into the dating scene again.
@Dax Xenos , I had PIED and after about 20 days, I had strong and lasting erections back. I'm extremely lucky. YMMV. Don't underestimate the performance anxiety. Nobody wants to bomb. A little extra stress, and the blood goes away from the extremities and gather close to the major organs.. Also, YMMV, I take b-complex vitamins (b-6 and B-12 are good for your willy). I take Zinc, L-Arginine, odorless garlic supplements and Maca/ginseng combo. All off-the-shelf stuff. Good for stress resistance and blood flow. So, your issue is either physical or psychological or a combo of both! http://www.livescience.com/15657-vitamin-improves-erectile-dysfunction.html http://morningsteel.com/garlic-and-erectile-dysfunction/ http://www.seductionscience.com/2010/harden-your-erections-tips/ Quote from above link 4. Take Multi-Vitamins You should take a multi-vitamin every day to increase your sexual performance and stamina. You don’t need an expensive brand name like Centrum – non-brand multi-vitamins are just as effective. Here’s how the different nutrients affect your sexual performance and health. A regular multi-vitamin will cover all of them. Vitamin A: Necessary for production of sex hormones and sperm. Vitamin E: Necessary for production of sex hormones and sperm. Vitamin B6: Helps prevent erectile dysfunction. Vitamin B12: Prevents impotence. Folate: Helps production of dopamine which increases your sexual desire. L-arginine: Helps in giving you hard erections. Niacin: Enhances your touch sensation and helps dilate your blood vessels to improve erections. Pantothemic acid: Critical for producing sex hormones and increases your endurance. Thiamin: Increases your sexual energy. Zinc: Critical for producing testosterone which gives you a healthy sex drive.
During reboot and rewiring it is strongly suggested that you refrain to go fully loaded. Best for you is to ask for a handjob. But just make sure she comes first and she comes more and you will divert the attention from you to her pleasure only. This will alleviate what ever anxiety and pressure you may have on yourself. I say for two to three months or so let the healing happen and when you are ready you will know but don't force it.
Escorts are never a good choice for those with PIED. Might even make you more anxious through performance anxiety followed by PIED when you cannot get an erection quick enough. lack of emotional connection.....not good for recovering addicts. However the escorts in South america were amazing to me when I was not suffering PIED ( managed 2 - 3 months no PMO stretch). They rele value pleasing their customers, lot's of kissing, foreplay... and intimacy. I heard North American hookers suck.... it's a waste of money.
Yo I hear ya bro. I got PIED and I'm on day 17 now. I've been using erectile dysfunction meds (sildnafil) and it works for me. But of course, I'd rather have natural, spontaneous erections. I also have delayed orgasm issue (I can only orgasm using my own hand with eyes closed while fantasizing or while viewing porn). So, I'm doing this NoFap thing to fix that. I've done it with a prostitute from Thailand and I can totally recommend it. They make you feel relaxed and can try different things. you wont be the first one with PIED they'd have seen. I did it with a prostitute in Bangkok with my girlfriend and at first I had total limpness and then popped a 100mg sildnafil pill and managed to pleasure both.
It wasn't an escort. It was a girl that I've known for a while, she was in town on business. To tell the truth I kinda wish it would have been with an escort, it would have may have been a lot less devastating to my ego, because I've always liked this girl. Like I said I've got a Dr.'s appointment coming up soon, so I'm going to get checked to make sure it wasn't anything physical.
