Fantasizing too much

its another mind over matter thing. you know they go too far, and you now they are a reason you relapse. if you view fantasizing in the same way others view edging you might be more inclined to stop. a lot of people don't edge because they know it makes it easy for them to MO, so they are really tough on themselves when they do. maybe you need to view fantasizing in the same way?

 

hey man i see you having problems fantasizing to much or wanting to stop i too used to often fantasized. message me about you everything you prefer to tell me so i can think of a good way to help you read my last post

 

@dgallows

I think you answered the question yourself bro

If it was easy it wouldn't be worthwhile! Yes it easier said than done and god knows I've failed too. But you have to get out of your comfort zone whatever that is. That might mean that you just have to jump up and go for a walk or maybe jump into a cold shower, yes that really works not just because it's cold but because it's uncomfortable. When you fantasize your in a comfort zone & anything that really is going to work has to be the opposite of that comfort zone. It just has to be hard to do & it sucks and it will suck everyday until it doesn't.

I'm going through the same thing & if any of these tried & true methods were easy none of us would be here.

Stay strong!

 

My method isn't really fool proof but usually I like to have a "back up topic" basically have something that you can easily start thinking about. For me it's building a new computer. I'm tech junkie so doing research on components that I want use in my new computer is what I use when I start fantasizing. This happens a lot when i'm bored at work. So i'm kind of lucky in the fact that I won't fap at work but it hell for my productivity.

Signed,
Mr. Meakle

 

I like to visualize myself physically pushing the unwanted thoughts out of my head. I usually try to breathe deep and clear my mind. Recenter/ground yourself.

 

Hey guys just wanted to ask how to deal with unwanted sexual thoughts getting into your head....any fix 4 this?
They just pop in any time and I struggle with trying to get them out of my head.
It's my 3rd streak of no PMO with the 1st two being 5 days long and 10 days long respectively pls help.

 

I've always had a vivid imagination and unfortunately, I've been using it for my own sexual gratification for far too long so I can relate.

Remember that fantasizing has the same effect on your brain as watching porn, or "edging". Whenever a thought like this arises, make a conscious decision to suppress it. Remember what you're doing and why you're doing it. You're strong and you know it.

 

I was fantasies earlier. I was trying to have a nap after work but I just couldn't. I started fantasising about having sex with a woman despite the fact that I'm normally homosexual...

But anyway I think just accept the fantasies to be honest just don't act on them by masturbating.