I just don't give a s**t

Look, I understand you! I've experienced periods where I just have zero reasons to continue. No motivation, no drive, what's the point? Here's the deal though, pornography is not the best thing for you. Not just the ethical side, because sex is a part of love life, not entertainment and lonely nights. Also, it will mess with your brain so when your love life does get real, things won't be as fun as it should've, and that's not nice!

My recommendation? I don't think motivational videos and masses of information being shotgun at you will help. Here's my tip: JUST DO IT! At one point, I didn't care about the scientific stuff, I didn't care about the videos and posts, I just did it (like, whatever). Welp? Things did improve, I went very far, and I felt GREAT! So, who cares about the facts? Just dive in and give it a shot, I guarantee that you will feel amazing.

Not saying that the facts aren't important, because they are, and reasons are one of the biggest forms of motivation ever. BUT, if you overthink it, you're just not gonna actually go and do it, so actually go and do it! Good luck.

 

Kinda in the same boat here, only with MO (porn is history). I'm currently on my way to yet another "never ever" streak. It's day 3 or 4 today. I guess I lost count already. I don't even care. Will I ever masturbate again? Who knows, maybe, or maybe not. I'm systematically establishing a holistic pro-development regime in my otherwise messed up life, though. And the no wanking thing is just a part of it.

So that's what I'd probably suggest to you: start improving in general, with NoFap being only a part of it - the means of getting somewhere, not the goal itself.

But hey, you've probably read this BS a million times here.

 

Dude, have you done 90 days?? I know how you feel; you are so sick of this constant never ending battle and you just want to be, and move on. But believe me, if you actually do a full 90 days I think you will get a proper dosage of what the other side (life away from constant fapping and PMO) feels like, and then you will think again about seriously wanting to quit. If not, the 90 day experience is a great way to "fast", "take a tolerance break", "reboot" OR even get Focused and Improve on other areas in your life. I managed 98 days before I relapsed but during that time I was able to really accomplish soooo MUCH and I have to say since relapsing I have managed another 21 days before recently relapsing again. The thing is not to allow the relapses to affect you too much, but since taking cold showers throughout my reboot I have been able to avoid binging (which is the killer). I have to say that I would love to encourage you to GET RID OF PORN as it has been the killer to my relapses, but I have not lost too many benefits I've gained and believe me since the 90 days I have chosen to stay on the other side, I have chosen, not, to be a WANKER;-)...happy days mate

 

I don't believe in "never ever streaks" a lot of people who have done 90 days will tell you this, you need to start small. Set objectives, do 10 days, then 15, then 30, then 40, then 45, then 50, then 60 and then 90. A lot of people have relapsed many many times, but as someone who suffers from Delayed Ejaculation let me tell you it's worth it. NoFap has almost cured me, I managed to O many times during sex and I am now doing another streak (aiming for 60 and if I'm strong enough 90) to be able to O in any position. It's 100% up to you, but you need to WANT to change.
If you just want to keep watching porn to the point you can't O with real life sex or you can't even get it up then do that. But then don't complain about it, JUST DO IT!

 

Not sure whom the above responses were directed to (probably the OP though), but let me say that I personally throughout my NoFap adventure have managed 2x100 day streaks (and then some minor ones, like 20-30-40 days), and none of them really gave me any sort of "boost" in terms of self motivation, energy, or whatever. They did however release me from the frustrating after-effects of masturbation, such as the sense of shameful dependence, sense of not really being ready for a responsible relationship with a loving woman, and then some smaller benefits of a more obvious nature - like saving time at the shower.

So, indeed - the abstinence would in my life make me feel better about myself, but not on a subconscious level, really (like in terms of overall energy boosts resulting from neuroplastic changes, or something). In my case the issue has proven to be almost entirely moral.

 

Just my two cents... I might shift my mindset from I want to go 90 days to I want to get a little better.

Try tracking your wins and fails. It's easier to go to 3 times a week from 2 a day than it is to stop cold turkey. I'm not saying give yourself permission to fap... I'm just say focus on minimizing it. When you do fail, I'd ask what happened? Why did it happen? What was I thinking? and dive in.

I'm not a NoFap master that has conquered the urges... I have SIGNIFICANTLY cut down on my porn and masturbation use though. It's maybe 2-3 times a week on average compared to 14-21. That is a big win.