When do you start to interest in love and/or marriage? I mean how many days/months required to feel love and interest in marrage again?
kriss93 Wow, if we could perdict that, what a wonderful world it would be. Just keep working your program, and let nature take it's course.
I am starting to suspect that what if I am a trans, because I feel like a woman 99% of the time. But in deep down I am know that this is not for me, and I want to be a real man... I really don't know what causes transsexual feelings, I myself never thought in my early teens that I will have feelings like this.. All of my thoughts was about women and their bodies and have sex with them...but now I am thinking about men dominating/fucking me like a sissy....it's shit.
hey @kriss93 are you about to explain this a little bit further? it sounds like you're jumping around on subjects here...is this a discussion about your association with love and/or marriage (which are two separate entities because I think we all know people who are married but not in love) ...or is this a discussion about your sexual identity? there are plenty of resources to explore if Trans* seems to be something your inclined towards, which is a legitimate experience and identity...but if you're fetishizing the trans* spectrum in terms of engaging in BDSM acts to "get off" that's something entirely separate from actually being/identifying/transitioning to be Trans* ....none of this is abnormal in any way shape or form, as the entire BDSM community, and sexuality period, is a very abstract spectrum of experience, but this journey in NoFap is a process of releasing our attachment to excessive PMO
I am very confused, I was into transwoman porn more than 1 year, but before I have had those "girl fantasies" to getting penetrated, but (If I could say a percentage) it was around 10-15% intrusive/intense and often, but right now in the last few years it was growing, know it is 90-95% of my fantasy... The fact didn't bothered me that I have these kind of fantasies until it is destroying my everyday life and psyche. What your're saying about the offtopic is right. I shouldn't have mentioned it here, but sorry I was in a very stressful state. I am started to calm down now again. Please don't say if trans is normal.... I know it is normal, I have nothing against trans people and I am respecting them. But is it NOT normal for ME. My deepest soul just cannot fit with being transgender...I am really afraid that I will stuck with these fantasies forever, so I am have to prepare to a "single" life, because if I can't get back my old fantasies, and cant get erect from women, I will be single, and do something "big" in the life, and I will concentrate another things than sexuality...but that's what I don't really want, it is just a "last option", I really hope to have a family and be a father, have a wife...because that's what I'm dreaming about.
kriss93 I'm not sure how old you are, but you sound like a younger guy. As we get older, and begin to be exposed to more and more information, we sometimes wonder where we fit into all these various places. In my 30 years in the military, I travelled the world, and met, worked with, and was friends with people of every imaginable background. As we grow, we will many times question our identity and our place in society, and make no mistake, there will be many predators and people with ulterior motives trying to lure us to their version of society. Pornography and its producers, and those involved in the performances are included in this as well. They are no better than any other distributor of addiction, and are creative in their manner. After all, misery loves company, and make no mistake many of these perfs lead lonely, miserable lives, despite their attempts to deceive you. NoFap is here to assist you with one part of that addiction, any other concerns should be dealt with by people trained to do so.
I don't really get what you trying to say zip, I mean I don't know how it belongs to this post and to my comments?
kriss93 What I thought you were writing about was a sexual identity crisis, and your being confused about whether you are feeling you're transgender and not heterosexual. My point was that sometimes as we grow and become exposed to various sexual lifestyles, we sometimes wonder if we are in fact part of that lifestyle, homosexuality comes to mind. We may find ourselves fapping to a bi-sexual threesome video, involving a woman and two men and become aroused. After a few times, the excitement deceases and we find ourselves returning to our regular pursuits. I believe NoFap is dedicated to helping people quit PMO, and return to a normal sexual life before both their mental and physical life is ruined; not unlike the lives of the perfs who perform these activities, and become mentally and physically destroyed as well. My PMO addiction was replaced by a "porn crush" addiction that consumed my life. I now wear an ID bracelet with the words, "It's not my concern" engraved on it. Because, I am NOT concerned anymore about this woman and her fucked up life. NoFap helped me see that, along with people in these forums.
