Sissy submission

Full disclosure, this isn't my kink so my opinion my not be legitimate, but here's what I've seen.

Porn is attractive because of novelty. As porn itself becomes less novel, the user has to seek out increasingly specialized fetishes to get the same experience. I think the normal progression for the older generation was the JC Penny underwear ads, then Victoria's Secret, then the SI Swimsuit Edition, men's magazines, and then finally, for most, Playboy, after which they either were in a holding pattern, or realized that it is totally classless to objectify women and grew out of it. Those who wanted to progress moved on to Penthouse and Hustler, but if a kid interested in Raquel Welch's fur bikini (please don't google search Raquel Welch's fur bikini, it's a trigger) saw a Hustler spread, he'd feel kind of sick. That progression is insanely escalated due to the availability of porn. A kid can go from Penny's to Playboy in the space of an afternoon, and by the end of the month, even Hustler has been left far behind. Playboy recently quit running nude photos, because they can't compete with modern porn and stay the "classy," "credible" publication that it is. Or supposedly was. Whatever.

Given this, I doubt you got started on the humiliation fetish, or were even initially turned on by it. Only after you were acclimated and numb to vanilla porn did you find it enticing. It's a thing, no doubt; it's shared by a lot of men and in that sense it could be called justified. However, you are (I assume) a porn addict, from a generation of porn addicts, and you may not have developed this fantasy had you been left to your own devices.

My advice is to quit porn, then see how you feel. A lot of guys have been horrified and disgusted with the fetishes their addiction led them to, and have been able to shed them with the reboot. If you have misgivings about this fantasy, then don't feed it. Regardless, you should be focusing on balancing your sexuality right now, not exploring it. Porn exaggerates and warps us in this regard, so it's usually a good idea to just dial back and concentrate on becoming a more rounded, whole human being rather than a skin obsessed wanker.

After that, if humiliation is still your thing and you're ok with that, go forth with my blessing.

 

Keep your eyes away from porn for a week and look how it feels for you. Can you live without it? Don`t feed that junkie inside of you who dwells upon sensual desires and acquires more and more pleasant emotions while avoiding all unpleasant ones.

 

This!

Meshuga really nailed it. It's like my scuba porn fetish...I'm not going on course and trying to get my wife involved in scuba! I ended up there after many shifts in "tastes"...genres after genres...habituation and coolidge effect pushing us towards dark alleys

 

I am incredibly torn. I can't tell if this is a joke, in which case it's hilarious, or for real, in which case you have my sympathies and dangerous curiosity.

 

Sorry for naked truth but here you are:
in my opinion all those humiliation fantasies are connected with low self-worth in a real life. Basically deep down inside you believe that you are not good enough (worth) to fuck a woman like a man; your brain rewired to that and created that fetish that this is as much as you deserve. If you want to get rid of that fetish you need to reboot AND find that self-worth again. Both this things are needed if you do it, the fetish will disappear.
I can confirm it based on my own experience, over three years I was wanking only to humiliations and femdom videos and couldnt get hard to normal sex and after reboot, starting new hobbies, new job, feeling of being productive, finding new friends my self-worth increased and fetish slowly disappered as that humiliation porn cannot connect with me any more.
Read this article that explains how fetish porn abuses it, it think that post is brilliant. https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2mghmi/the_inherent_nature_of_porn_is_to_mock_you/

 

I agree with Justin and just have to add this talk video on low sel-worth, hope it helps even more than eye-opening Justin`s post.

 

How old are you? What were your first ever sexual fantasies? What was your first sex experience like?

 

lol its true. don't look for it, but its fairly easy to find on the major porn sites. Its a derivative of latex, shiny, etc also, reminds me of going swimming in buddies pools with a mask on and a mom swimming close by ...

 

I can tell you now that very few women would be up for facilitating that fantasy with you.

 

That, in a nutshell, is why porn exists in the first place, and why pretty much every sexual activity recorded on camera is a lie.

 

I agree with much of what @Meshuga has said. Porn at it's core is an emotional issue. And it grows, feeds upon, and incorporates any insecurities that you may have. Also, whatever issues or insecurities a person might have around their sexual formative years can also imprint a standard/pattern/expectation/ideal of what sex is supposed to be.

For instance, many people have power issues. Some people grew up in a home that had a domineering mother or father figure. Some people grew up neglected or ignored. Some people were bullied or humiliated during adolescence. These things create feelings of low-self esteem, feelings of worthlessness, shame, numbness, and feelings of powerlessness. A person might start to connect pain with love or a person might feel they have to be humiliated in order to be worthy of pleasure. Porn/sex addiction incorporates those themes... and that is why there are so many genres and absurd categories that matches each person's unique tastes. And is it any wonder that some of the most popular themes in porn involve taking or surrendering power?

Some people escalate into different into these more twisted forms of porn, but often the seeds have been sowed years ago. If you have only recently escalated into this form of pornography then those desires will subside after you quit watching porn. If these issues predate your addiction then you might need to see a therapist to discover the roots of these deeper problems and learn healthier ways to address those needs or problems.

 

this is very insightful. Not just for sissy fantasies but a lot of fantasies and fetishes and really porn in general.

 

Agreed. A lot of it stems from your own self-worth or lack thereof.

 

I also escalated to Femdom and humiliation. From my experience, it is clear to me that porn is very clever and designed to take you down increasingly self destructive paths.

It begins by making you comfortable with objectifying women. By this, it has subliminaly trained you to objectify yourself. When you believe yourself to be a worthless object, you feel validation by Femdom and humiliation. This is a carefully constructed process that leads to disturbing mental health issues etc

 

Yes very true, lot of fantasies and fetishes, it applied to me also for bbw and mature - my springboard to femdom (''You are good enough only to fuck fat and very old''). But once you realize that this is the same (selfworth) trap it is much easier to avoid it.

 

Yes. We don't realize we are also doing it to ourselves! But once we realize we have the key to the prison the prison no longer holds us.
The subtle deception is that we, and often society encourages us to hold valid any feeling -- oh you like that, oh it's just your thing-- well no it's not, it's actually holding me back from true happiness , like continuing to eat junk food with no nutritional value because you THINK you'll starve if you don't, but really you're starving by eating it, because it has no nutritional value, the trick is to stop eating it and eat something truly nourishing