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Hey there, Denzel!

I couldn't agree more on PMO being a horrible, shitty, unpredictable habit.

But the way I'd like to show my support on your journey is by saying to not put sex on a pedestal. When you let it take so much space in your head, you'll turn to it (or porn, in our case) whenever you need an escape. There's a lot of materials out there to help us build the best versions of ourselves - but we have to apply it.

I also went a time that I wasn't interested at all in girls - it was more than one year long. But it's ironic, man, I only found someone who I was interested in after I got too caught up working on myself.

Graduating and looking for first jobs in a tough time, you will need your head in the right place. Focus on conquering yourself first, everything else will follow. You just have to trust your doing your part and let the rest take care of itself.

Stay Strong!

Mic, Cadet, Heirs of the Sun. In Honor of Operation FS.

 

You have your reasons ALL wrong. I know this because I was once in your mindset. I wanted a girlfriend like NOTHING else in the world. I cried myself to sleep many nights because of how lonely I felt. I acted like a beta, not a man in the slightest. You MUST get the idea of a girlfriend out of your head for now. You are not emotionally mature YET. You need to be the BEST version of yourself you can be, so that special girl will see you standing in the crowd like you have a giant neon sign ablaze above your head saying "I am all you have been looking for: here I am, come get me." It is admirable you have started this journey, we all have our catalysts for change. Please, focus on improving yourself. Get to the gym. Meditate. Read self improvement literature. Listen to YouTube videos of Eddie Pinero, Les Brown and so on. Get up early and work on a talent or hobby. Become the BIGGEST, BADDEST mother-trucker you can become. So when you do encounter that girl, she will be so blown away by your awesomeness her attraction levels for you will shoot into orbit. Take CONFIDENCE from the fact you are doing what 99% of all guys would never be able to do. Look around: nearly all the guys you see are asleep. You are like Neo in the Matrix. YOU have woken up. And YOU are the ONE. That should make you feel like the most Alpha dude around. You value your energy like few men ever will.

Watch this clip of when Neo truly discovers what he is. It gave me shivers, and hopefully it will spark something anew in you:

 

That is a bloody great start man! Consider joining the Heirs of the Sun on Reddit, we are a small, tightly knit and disciplined group looking for soldiers who are willing to make the commitment:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Heirs_of_the_Sun

 

Once you become confortable with the beast inside, Your aura expands that much people feel the pressure of your presence.

Absolute confidence in your work and effort is the trait that will make you want prove yourself only to yourself. We become of such maturity that our confort zone seems dull and we're drawed onto challenge.

Sergeant 1st Class Lucid in honor of Operation Fallen Soldier

Reddit Heirs Division

 

This is the right attitude and coincidentally it is the only attitude that will result in success - what a huge advantage for you! You said you want to win 'at all costs...' Good! The cost is as Golden Eagle as explained above, you've got to stop thinking about girls and sex for awhile. Running and doing some light workouts is a good start. Just as important as your physical development is your mental development. Mental toughness.

Watch yourself for these things: Do you complain a lot? Do you give up easily? Do you make excuses often? It's time to start objectively paying attention to the thoughts that cross your mind. Reject what is negative and keep what is beneficial. Mental training takes time and practice, willpower will result. Willpower that enables you to use the internet, social media, watch TV, etc and simply choose not to look at porn. You must become the master.

Remember, the mind fails before the body.

Don't worry about girls right now! You sound like a great guy. When you are on top of your game again, you will naturally exude the subtle confidence that attracts girls. Focus on yourself. You can do this!

 

Good luck! you can write your post here everyday like many us here.

 

@Denzel889 thank you for sharing your story. I'm 26 and haven't had a real relationship yet with a woman. Had some sex but I feel it wasn't as good as it could have been. I've focused so much energy on rethinking my past choices and wondering when or where I'll find a cool woman to date.
I do think about woman and relationships still quite a bit, but for the time being I am focusing on me. My life, quitting PMO, work, money, exercise and also having more fun.
Keep up the good work!

 

How many more times you gonna have to get knocked down before that counter no longer gets reset?

Ain't no answer for that but your signature talkin' about bein' knocked down and your counter at 0 AGAIN makin' me think YOU ENJOY BEING KNOCKED DOWN.

 

Denzel your parents are worried about you it sounds.

They are overprotective, you are old enough to be your own man at 25. You still live with them I'm guessing?

 

PUT YOUR MONEY WHERE YOUR WORDS ARE.

THEY SEEM EMPTY WHEN YOU CANNOT BACK THEM UP WITH YOUR PROGRESS MATE NO OFFENSE.

 

Screw you pal. I'm going places in the Heirs. Join them if you think you can.

 

Im with you brother. Day 3!!!