hi all! I'm a 26 female dealing with masturbation addiction. I'm actually a virgin and people see me as an innocent sweet girl. Nobody knows that i'm actually have a deep interest on sex. But i'm totally ashamed of this condition and want to stop so bad. I dont even remeber when I started this 'hobby'. Things usually getting worse when i am in my deppresion episode. Besides dealing with this addiction i also have a mental condition. So, to anyone who successfully get rid of your addiction, i really need your help!!!!!
I have adhd. My wife has ocd. She's never had a full blown specific addiction but I've been pmo free for over six months. It's all a byproduct of our inner pain that we are hiding from. Find your demons and face them, that will give your fight the edge it needs for success. Enlighten yourself to your true feelings. You can try to change all you want but as long as your trying to hide from your pain, you will be handicapping your ability to succeed. You got this.
Good for you!!! I wish you and your wife a happy life! Dealing with mental disorder really eating me inside and i dont have any relative or friend or lover to talk to, but here i know i can get so much support from people like you! I'm just started the 90 days reboot challenge, today. Pleas wish me luck
Hi Kirana, welcome! As you said vaguely "masturbation addiction" it's not clear to me how you get to masturbate, as by mean of porn, chats, sexting, fantasies, depressive moments or something else. Anyhow what helped me much was getting to understand what is an addiction to PMO, how it works, how we triggered it and why. I think this is a "must" for anyone because you'll learn that PMO is only way to deal or escape ourselves. I advice you to learn as much as you can, on NoFap site "PornAddictionBasics" or on www.yourbrainonporn.com. In fact when the addiction is triggered it changes our brains as it is more difficult to "stop" on a physiological level 'cause your brain circuits had rewired. So it's common to been unable to stop even if you desire it. It's also useless to feel ashamed 'cause this leads to more stress and that leads you to more urges to masturbate. Keep calm, keep patient, you have to walk step by step. Good luck!
Thankyou for your advice! You re right, i need to identify the trigger because tbh i dont really now what is the source of the desire. I dont watch porn movie, but sexy scene usually affected me and make me fantasying. I've been single for around 8 years so probably it increasing my curiousity as well. But anyway you also right again to stopbeing ashamed! I know now from this site that a lot of people struggle and that motivate me alot. Thankyou again!
Hi Kirana, Have a look to http://yourbrainonporn.com/videos to know more about what it's triggering you; they also have a huge women section http://yourbrainonporn.com/porn-problems-here-come-women.
