Question: Having sex while fantasizing?

Yes I had the same experience more than one time...

 

If you can't orgasm without thinking about porn don't do it, wait till you can orgasm the natural way or else you won't break your connection to porn.

 

I tried every way around hard mode,,, but everything else has led me back into porn ( including pretty good sex). Part of my brain prefers porn to real women , hard to admit but wtf. Im into my third month of hard mode and things have become so much clearer to me. I feel on a gut level how pornified my brain was/is. I tried looking at p subs while m'ing, m'ing without any visuals, sex but no p or m etc etc...Either way I always needed some kind of porn fantasy to be more than just mildly aroused. Anyway good luck hope that helps.

 

I'm doing hardmode to break this connection with porn that infects my relationship with girls...

 

When I was into porn I had to think about it a few times during sex, sometimes not even that would work and then i just wouldn't cum. While on NoFap i havent had any problems i can think of but take in mind i rebooted for almost 100 days before having sex again.

 

I have had the same, I quit chasing just trying to have an O, that's where the danger is at is always chasing that O, if you can't O don't worry about it, it's better not to O than to induce it with images or fantasy, that's how I would always have an O was through fantasy but since I started nofap I've not fantasized while having intercourse, if I can't O then I just don't O

 

That's the thing, don't need to do hardmode if you have healthy sex as in not fantasizing.

 

Well you would think, but after having the O the next day I felt the O hangover so to speak, with incredible painful harsh side effects, on a scale of 1-10 ten being the worse my loneliness scale yesterday was a 19+, I was depressed, I was incredibly irritable, I had the shakes and I had the brain fog, so paying attention to my feelings and my body, my body and brain are not yet ready for O, I have to totally heal and reboot to be better (this may not be the case for everybody) I'm listening to my body, all I wanted to do yesterday was fap to O but I didn't, it felt like I was on drug withdraws, incredible dark and a sense of hopelessness, I have to go hard mode so I can get healthy, my wife is supportive and on board with this so it's ok.

 

Well... I had never heard of those side effecfs only by orgasming. Hope it gets better with time! Remember that a little hangover the day after is normal.

 

Reading about it I've learned that it's actually better not O as much as I was, for an example wife and I had sex this past Wednesday night I O two times during that session, then this past Sunday same thing I O two times, both days after were excruciating difficult, I'm talking about difficult my brain and body were both craving an O and I was feeling the withdraws from it, this probably isn't for everybody but my body is telling me to chill for right now on the O because I feel like I'm still depleting an empty gas tank, I've read last night that it takes way more than 7 days to recoup from 1 O and I had 4 within days of each other, I'm not saying it's linked together but there's not going to be any harm in going say 90 days without an O just to see how I feel, now mind you, I'm 37 and I've been habitually masturbating for well over 25+ years with the longest streak being only 5 days in my whole life (except for now, today is day 14 with no FAPPING and porn at all) so I think I have a long long road ahead of me and I'd rather try anything to see if I can be somewhat normal, just my story.