Whats up guys. First post here. So I haven't even looked at porn or edged or anything for about 6 weeks, and haven't fapped to completion in over 3 months. Ever since I stopped the edging and porn I've noticed huge benefits including boosts in creativity, focus, self-confidence and discipline. I was pretty sensitive if you know what I mean and it got to a point where I knew I wouldn't last 30 seconds but I was always able to channel the energy to my life and it really made me feel like a new person, before doing this I was riddled with depression and anxiety. But then a couple nights ago I fell asleep and about an hour in I had a gigantic sub-conscious wet dream, it wasn't a normal one though it literally felt like a full fledged O of 3 months of abstaining, straight to the head, it actually woke me up for like an hour. These 2 days since I've felt literally and emotionally empty, depressed, out of rhythm, feels even worse than months ago because then I was used to it and had no idea what I was capable of. I'm so frustrated because I'm taking the GRE tomorrow, the past 2 days its been so much harder to lock in compared to just a few days ago! Why couldn't this damn dream wait for like 4 more days? This shit sucks, has anyone else had similar experiences?
I understand what you're feeling. I feel the same each time i had nocturnal emission. Did you think about erotic things during the day?
Yeah I did actually, sadly. I've looked at videos of attractive women (not porn) on youtube before during the day but I would always disassociate myself with the sexual part of it, I'd like try to appreciate the beauty of the person lol. But on that particular day I felt a little down about something and watched some of those videos to cheer up (smh) and I guess I let myself give in a little bit mentally (even though I didn't actually do anything)!
Yes, it has happened to me once after having a good streak (not as long as yours) and I remember how I felt waking up that day. Just filled with confusion and guilt and If I'm not mistaken I relapsed later that day and started over. However, looking back this was a huge setback on its own as I know now that wet dreams are a natural thing the body lets out. Just ride it out, continue your journey.
Yes, we (men) are mostly visual driven. I learned that before going on nofap, our mind has a spank bank that stores all those images we see at anytime to recall in future when we masturbate. What's worst is, the spank bank still exist subconsciously even when you're on nofap because your subconscious will pull out those images/feelings to feed your arousal at night, thus you orgasm during a nocturnal emission. I've had a nocturnal emission without any orgasm at all, it just leaked out without even one dream after i meditated for 2 hours before sleep. I know the pattern of my body, it takes about 7 - 10 days for night emission each time so i time myself to meditate for long hours before sleep. But the gap days are getting longer. You should know your own body too. So be careful with what you think about during the day. Not only youtubes, but any visual element you see in the day remotely can be saved in your spank bank subconscious when sexually attracted to. Btw i should also say that deliberately looking at sexually attractive images to excite your mind is a form of mental edging. So it's not something to be encouraged.
Yeah I agree with you. I've actually had dreams at night before where I felt myself about to have an emission but I would subconsciously stop myself in my sleep because I knew I didn't want to. This time I guess I didn't stop myself subconsciously because I expressed a little bit of actual desire during the day. Pretty interesting how the mind works.
Don't do P-subs. Also, take cold showers right after any wet dreams. That will help you keep your head clear. Just some advice. The demotivating effects of wet dreams go away after 1-2 days. I would know. During the past month and a half, I've had probably 8 or 9 wet dreams. A few days ago, I had two within a few minutes of each other.
I feel you man. Wet dreams are natural and shouldn't set you back too much. I had one early into my streak and it didn't feel as much as a setback as it did a relief. I guess since my streak was so long my dream was so intense. It's crazy because I thought it'd feel like more of a relief again, but I got so intense of a rush during it that it felt like it happened awake, and my body and mind just felt drained the next day as if I actually relapsed.
