Considering giving into the urges, need advice.

if you get to 3 weeks , it means you can do more ! but its like you already programming your brain to relapse after 3 weeks ( at least subconsciously ) , so after 3 weeks you ll be like "it's okay to relapse now" ! you need to set up your goal before you start and be clear and honest with yourself ... next time get yourself mentally ready for the 90 days challenge ,knowing that its not gonna be easy and you will struggle but you will get through it without relapsing , challenge yourself

 

Tell your sociology teacher that I've seen 14 years old boys stay away from PMO more time than you.

The reasons you told to quit are ridiculous. I know a guy your age who went a year PMO free. It's not uncontrollable, you can resist it, it's not that hard and about the studies let me tell you.

I am on NoFap because I have an exam for my profession in law field, basically, the better I do at the exam, the more chance I get I high paying job and I am doing this to focus on my studies. How can you say that NoFap prevents you from studying when, I say this for experience, when I fap, I am always too tired to study and end up doing nothing.

NoFap is helping me incredibly with my studies, as I said, the reasons you stated are ridiculous. It's just your brain trying to trick you to get his dopamine.

Stay strong fapstronaut, and keep relapsing and counting days. Each relapse is a battle you failed, but with persistence, you'll win this war.

 

I probably have a different opinion about masturbation at your age than many of the folks on here. One I can say with a great deal of certainty is that stopping the porn at your age will pay off greatly when you're older. If you're obsessing over it now and trying to go around measures to keep you from looking at pornography, this could indicate a serious addiction problem. Trust me on this, you don't want to be almost 40, married with children, and have to hide your porn addiction from your spouse and children. Because the simple fact is, you won't be able to in the long term. I'm not sure if the blockers on your devices were installed by your parents or are a personal choice, but think how embarrassing it would be to have your spouse installing blockers on all of your devices.

When you get these urges, how do you cope?

 

I understanding where you are coming from. It's really difficult to study because all I can think about it sex and I have a boner all the time.
BUT there is a way and it IS possible. Go and study at a public library or university. There will be no possibility to PMO during studies. When you get home, only enter your room to SLEEP when you are completely tired. Don't give your brain the chance to say: hey you worked hard today you deserve a PMO. Because when you hit the 90 days, you wont need PMO anymore. Also a nice coping mechanism for me is to go running/walk every evening before bed. Just do it. Make it a habit and replace it so no more PMO.

 

Embarrassing, but awesome that you have an accountability partner in your girlfriend, especially at such an early age (sorry, if that sounds patronizing). I think you need a coping strategy. Will power alone is almost never enough for an addict to overcome their addictions. The fact that you're here and posting, seeking support and advice, and have an accountability partner in your girlfriend puts you miles ahead in your journey than I ever considered at your age. You can do this.

Back to coping strategies. One thing that has worked for me in the past is to A) think about whatever porn your drawn to and the physical person in them as actual people with actual thoughts, pasts, bodily functions, issues, etc., and not as the plastic fantasy that porn perpetrates. That's a lie we're drawn into. B) Instead of the fantasy, consider what you want instead by giving up those few minutes of pleasure. Think about your girlfriend and how you value that relationship. Think about real intimacy and what that means to you. Then realize that porn ruins that intimacy and sours your relationships.

 

I been 17 days clean and being filled with energy doing more to level up in my life eating healthy and working out daily also challenging myself to keep being productive on finding a fulltime job

 

No, by intimacy, I meant the complete intimacy that comes from being genuinely close to someone and sharing your life with them on a level that greatly exceeds the physical. Long distance relationships are tough; but, again, I'm not talking about being physically intimate with someone. You could very well have an intimate relationship with her despite the distance. Only you can say if that's what you have/want. But, if I could go back to my 18 year old self, I would tell him to eliminate porn, work on personal growth and fulfillment so that when you do meet the love of your life, you're mentally healthy enough to have a whole and meaningful relationship.

 

I'm in the same boat as you haha. It's hard I know.

 

Just focus on today. You've gone 24 hours before, so make a deal with yourself that you'll get through the next 24 hrs, regardless of anything after that or how many or how few days you've gotten through. Tomorrow, point out your small victory to yourself

OK, cool. Good job. See, not so bad.

Then re-commit to another day. Keep racking up small victories. One step forward. Repeat.

 

Yeah, a blocker isn't really the answer. It's like saying, we'll just get rid of all the alcohol in the house to fix the alcoholic. It's an addiction. It will find a way. This must come from deep within you and you alone. But, it takes more than just will power. I would suggest looking up some coping strategies and researching a bit about the addiction. You can do it, but you probably can't do it with just the tools at your disposal right now. Knowledge is power.

 

Unless you want to see yourself fighting this urge later in your thirties like some of us here stay strong to defeat this to go on with your life without this destructive addiction