I want to achieve my potential, whatever that may be. So far, NoFap has been a life-changing experience for me. I only hope to have the strength to continue the journey. How about you?
“True freedom is impossible without a mind made free by discipline.” ― Mortimer J. Adler, How to Read a Book: The Classic Guide to Intelligent Reading
I expected more than 1-word sentence guys. I didn't stated my goals first to avoid people copying my answer. I am doing this NoFap thing because I spent too much time with PMO. Either looking, classifying, collecting, or just fapping, waiting for the right time to fap, sleeping (fap causes more sleepiness). That is the main reason. Also, to have more energy, focus, and to not have that emotional drama and self hate I've always had. My self-esteem is better now, and I do have more energy. This is good, but nonetheless, I still spend a lot of time online, doing random and useless stuff like playing chess and browsing this website. I feel like I traded one pass-time for another. Traded low self-esteem for mood swings. Sometimes I think NoFap is not worth doing, but then I remember I must do this until the end, the goal I set for myself. I have been trying to read more books and study, but I have been avoiding it, and I thought by just by being on NoFap I would have strength to do this. Perhaps I was wrong. Still, I'm going to the end. Not giving up.
“To say more while saying less is the secret of being simple.” ― Dejan Stojanovic Having said that, I will share this: For me, NoFap is a 90 day recovery program. I will for 90 days give my recovery primary focus by being interactive on this web site. When the 90 days are done, then I am done here. I will be as committed as a recovering alcoholic. The alcoholic understands that they simply cannot drink alcohol anymore. I will be done with porn. I have a life, and I am enjoying the 2 hours a day that I have redeemed from the dung heap. I will not spend a life time of rebooting. 100 percent effort - one time and I am done. NoFap is just the gym. You still have to do the work. “Self-respect is the root of discipline: The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.” ― Abraham Joshua Heschel Be Strong My Friends.
I Want To Focus On My Dreams,PMO Prevents me from focussing makes me lethargic and tired plus i am doing this for my gf we both really love each other and i don't want to be the.....you know
Please go forth, learn from my mistakes. I did not ever embrace a 90 day reboot with my ex. Never had the guts to really tell her I was addicted. I rationalized that I wasn't looking at hard porn, just erotic stuff but it did not matter in the end. I hemmed and hawed about it, we never had that necessary painful but truthful, healing conversation. Don't give up!
Sometimes words are wasted. My one word means more to me than any long, drawn-out diatribe could. I saw your original question and assumed it was a random thought born out of curiosity. It seems it is more than that; a question of your own motivations. NoFap isn't going to fix lack of motivation/procrastination. Just as, it's not going to make you instantly more attractive, bring you riches and women, give you superpowers, regrow your hair, increase your athletic abilities, or even just automatically make you a better human being. All your problems won't be solved at the end of 90 days (90 days is a pretty arbitrary number, btw). Here's what it will do, and what most folks on here should be looking for in coming to this community; most people on here are addicts; this forum acts as a support system for those that recognize they have a problem and want to stop being a slave to their addiction. For many here, the addiction stems from pornography; it has a grip on them and prevents them from living a completely full life. Breaking free from this addiction removes a roadblock preventing you from tapping into your full potential. Once it's gone, you have a choice as to where you want to go. You can go back and relive what you left behind, you could just sit down in the middle of the road and wonder where all those that pass you by are going, or you can see what lies in wait ahead. It could be more roadblocks. It could be the person of your dreams, the job of a lifetime, or a life changing opportunity. The point is, you won't know until you overcome the roadblocks and push yourself to continue down that road. It won't always be easy; anything in life worth doing rarely is and no amount of NoFap will ever change that. You want to be a chess master? Focus on that, follow your passion; or discover new ones. The choice is yours. The road is yours. Clear the way or make a new path.
sick minds are those in the world of porn. I wanted a pure mind, that is why I already quit P. but now I am trying to rap things up, quitting all p subs, including yoga, unfortunately that is just another escape. another thing from addiction. so I never got into yoga, thought about it. but stopping that thought dead in its track. not that yoga is bad. but I am not Masturbating any more, to get my mind totally off p-subs 100% and to get energy.
At first I started cos for whatever reason I had suspicions that it was unhealthy. And turned out it was. Lack of energy, lack of motivation, worse memory, anxiety, depression, insomnia, acne, migraines, bad vision and just generally being bored in life all the time; all of that went away during my 90 days. I'm guessing most of those things was caused by hormone imbalances due to too much fapping, desensitization and nutritional decencies caused by too big of a loss of semen. Few of those things come back once I started to fap again, and then vanish or decrease once I stop. So I just want to be healthy and function at my highest capacity. The reason why I am doing it now though is very much the same, with exception that there are also some spiritual aspects that I have introduced as my motivations. Developing Chi energy and "rising my consciousness up the chakras closer to God", so to speak. If I would have to describe it into one or two words (Which I actually would prefer, because I feel that sometimes things are more powerful in their distilled form, when they are mixed their essence often is lost. Kinda like when you mix too much water with juice; you can't quite feel the taste of juice anymore. But you asked for longer reply so here you go) they would be: "freedom" and "peace".
That's abit harsh don't you think this fapping is nothing worth killing yourself for if anything try keeping your mind bizzy with anything else
