tomorrow at 6am will be my first 24 hours done

"Meat market" is an apt metaphor.

These sites might set vulnerable people up for disappointment.

Someone may purchase a subscription to one of these with the sincere hope of finding love.

I wonder if many of the people with profiles on those sites are truly sincere.

Many of those people may be just trying to have fun through their computers.

It's a game of seeing how many hits one can get, particularly for women.

The more attractive women, I suspect, may only be trying to broaden their dating with more casual encounters.

The sincere guy who wants a real relationship is then at risk of getting burned.

You see "how shallow it can be."

I've looked at dating sites, and they seem to be like shopping on Amazon.com.

You click some pics and profiles of seemingly attractive women, and put them in your virtual shopping cart.

We know finding love isn't as easy as buying a new set of headphones.

Dating sites are alluring because they make it seem that easy.

(And, they are making money by preying on peoples' unfulfilled wishes.)

Sending a electronic message to a picture on the screen is too easy.

It takes courage and style to approach a woman in whom you are interested.

To form an intimate connection to another live person, one must be willing to take huge risks in the real world.

Some of us have been hiding behind our computers for too long.

(I must admit that I still like shopping on Amazon and eBay, and I will keep doing that. )

 

Keep staying strong!!!

 

You are very clearly aware of all that is happening with you.

Life is hard to face when there is nothing to hide behind.

I must confess that I too am questioning my NoFap commitment.

The sheer difficulty of this raises questions about whether this is realistic.

You are right in pointing out that such doubts are tricks the brain plays to get fed more porn.

We must remember that the dark and challenging times do not last forever.

Some reward is promised for the end of this.

I try to be process oriented, but reminding myself of the ultimate benefits of this gets me through the hard days and nights.

Just keep going.

 

It is such a great start for you man. I am glad you already made 30 days and hopefully PMO won't get back to your life ever again. Remember, you have to cut down all possible cues(images, audios, women on street, fantasies, anything that can potentially trigger you) in order to completely rewire your brain. Good luck!

 

Day 30 has been when this started to get extremely difficult for me.

That day and the ones that follow are those that will make or break us.

I've always gotten broken.

Never made it beyond Day 33, and I will not be there again until Jan. 18.

I am looking forward to being where you are now and having the satisfaction again of resisting the strong urges.

You will not relapse.

You will set an example for me to follow on my Day 34.

 

It is embarrassing for me that you misread my report.

We are not one day apart.

It is more like 31 days.

I relapsed Friday.

I am sorry to disappoint you and for no longer being a continuing inspiration.

Yet, even after my failure, I will offer whatever support I can give.

This is only my Day 3.

You are now finishing Day 34.

In my post, I was only recalling past success and anticipating my new Day 33 on Jan. 18.

You, however, give me an example to follow.

Not only do I still fall into PMO, I also tend to objectify women and size them up below the collar bone.

I caught myself doing that just yesterday when a met a lady's daughter, who is in her twenties.

This made me feel like a total pervert.

Your account of your time at the DMV is the example I must follow in the future, especially as I am around young women daily.

I will remember this, and I will remember your success to carry me through to my Day 34 next month.

This process is one of incremental progress.

By monitoring my every thought and action, I will try to make those small brain rewires for success and change.

 

Exercise is a great antidote to the urges.

I do have an exercise routine, and I try to follow it as much as time and energy permit.

My exercises would be seen as low intensity by many guys, but they are enough for me.

I am not very fit, and I am becoming less so with age.

Exercise is, of course, important for health, both physical and mental.

I feel so much better after working out.

Just knowing that I am doing something positive for myself is a great benefit, and I also like to watch the small changes in my physique.

Exercise also relieves the urges that build with NoFap.

Energy is channeled into my muscles, and away from the parts of my body which have caused me the most trouble.

It is as though my entire body becomes reorganized after working out.

That solves some of the physical problems of urges--or in simpler terms, of being f....king horny.

Problems with my porn-wired brain, however, are still there after a workout.

I remember porn, I think about porn, and I run porn scenes through my mind.

Intense exercise calms my body, but my brain still craves PMO.

This evening, after working out, I wasn't horny, but still wanted to keep thinking about my favorite porn star.

The only urges were in my brain and its memories of porn.

That is where the problem is located, and it is in the brain where we must fight this battle on another front.

 

There's hope in you... even though it sucks... i can hear it in your words. You really believe you will succeed. Hold onto that in the next 44 days. I am really impressed... I can't wait to see 44 turn into 88... I will be here for that...

 

There you go bro!!! There you go!!! Love how you found the positive in that!!! Total respect bro!