NoFap, no sex?

Why is he trying not to fap?

 

Have sex. No issues with that. Just remember that excessive of anything will cause harm. Too much fapping or sex causes weakness, too much restraint towards sex causes fighting and trouble for couples, mainly due to frustration. His restraint towards porn is good, but don't let it become a factor of unhappiness in your relationship. Sex is important, do it occasionally to maintain the spark. Good luck

 

No, definitely have sex. Good for the rewiring and all. Might be smart to refrain from having him orgasm for those 3 months though. I did have sex after 1 and 1/2 month and orgasmed twice, and it did set me back. Then again after about 2 and 1/2 months and the effects were way less.

 

He may benefit from abstaining completely from any sort of sexual interaction for a while. It's hard to say how long, though. But, even if he isn't pmo'ing, if he's fantasizing about porn while having sex with you, he's not really recovering. I would suggest a few weeks of complete abstinence, at first. Then, if you're both ready to try intimacy, see how things go. He has to be really honest and aware concerning his mental state. If he starts to go into fantasy mode, you two should abstain longer.

This can be hard for couples sometimes, I know. Keep in mind, there are other ways for you guys to be intimate without sex.

 

It all depends some people say that not having sex, or "hardmode" makes the recovery faster. Also watch out for "The Chaser Effect" I heard stories of people making it so far and then they have sex and end up relapsing a couple days later.

 

The Chaser Effect is real... and don't think that it's because he was unsatisfied by the sex. Sometimes if you don't have an orgasm for a while, you have a much easier time staying away. Once you have sex suddenly you want more and your sex drive automatically goes from 0 to 100. Next thing you know, you want to have sex every time you see your girl (meaning heightened libido, meaning higher chance of PMO). It's almost like if you're fasting for a while and you're kind of good then you have a small piece of food and suddenly your metabolism kicks in and you're super hungry.

I'm not sure what the answer is since every guy is different. If he's fantasizing about porn while you have sex then it's a bit of a different situation. If he wasn't, then I'd say at least prepare to have sex a bunch of days in a row so that he gets "sexed out." Having sex once and then not getting it for another few weeks is a recipe for disaster.