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I need to feel worse about relapsing

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Smaky, Dec 28, 2016.

  1. Dec 28, 2016 #1
    Smaky

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    Being Christmas break, it's the ultimate time of freedom and boredom--the easiest time to relapse. I have minimal contact with friends from school and I'm not getting out of the house much.

    So I just relapsed twice in two days. This is the first time I have ever M'd in two consecutive days. The problem is, I don't feel bad. I don't feel guilty. Rather, I don't feel anything. And I'm frustrated that I don't feel anything. I should feel some kind of guilt or shame, some kind of spark to give me a drive to do better. Maybe it's because I tell myself that because I'm not being very social during break, there isn't really a consequence to it (which is obviously a lie).

    Does anyone have any advice for me? This push through the rest of break will be the hardest. Thanks!
     
    Smaky, Dec 28, 2016
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  2. Dec 28, 2016 #2
    John Connor

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    You relapsed after how many days? And the fact is if you did after a long time, it's ok. Point is accept and try to push yourself again. If you start feeling bad, not only you would be wasting your time, you will feel more depressed and may end up doing again. Just realize that this is something you need to stop. When you feel like doing it, do some activity which rushes blood in your body. Trust me your emotions will change within a few minutes.
     
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  3. Dec 28, 2016 #3
    IggyIshness

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    Trust me you dont want that. im homeschooled, home all day lonley, and im not needing to jack odf.
     
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  4. Dec 28, 2016 #4
    IggyIshness

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    Just take it easy. just start a new reboot with no pressure. See it as something fun and do the best you can(just do it) Your asking to be depressed now..
     
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  5. Dec 28, 2016 #5
    feo1966

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    The problem with guilt is that it looks backward. That doesn't do you any good. Plus guilt makes you feel shitty, and actually more likely to turn to your addiction.

    What you really need is motivation, which looks forward.

    A good book to read is called "awaken the Giant", by Anthony Robbins
     
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  6. Dec 28, 2016 #6
    Smaky

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    Thanks for the responses guys!
     
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  7. Dec 28, 2016 #7
    derrickogole

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    What I would suggest is realising that by not watching porn you are making yourself stronger and more powerful. You want to be at your maximum performance with a girl and to do so you can't watch porn. If you watch porn you won't be able to perform at your maximum capacity. Brainwashing yourself into believing you need to be at your maximum performance at all times prepares you for a relationship that can happen at any time.
     
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