I have a weird confession too. I am madly in love with my college teacher. she's young and really beautiful. Sometimes I can't control but imagine and fantasize myself making love to her (in the classroom and when I am going to sleep). I don't get depressive feelings or anything or any urge to fap or watch porn. I just feel good and most of the timeI get rock hard erections when I fantasize about me being alone with her. ( and I had severe ed before I started nofap. couldn't get it up to my fav video either.) Although I have quit PMO and I am finding interest in other aspects of my life, I sometimes can't help but admire her beauty. For some reason I am thinking fantasizing about her or real women..fantasizing about the real stuff is being counter-productive.. I don't know. What should I do? Will this slow down my recovery?
Lol well as long as you've got the PMO under ctrl.. But it's hard for strangers to tell whether your teacher fantasy is in any way realistic and based on the woman's real traits, or whether you're just following a well-worn porn script. You should probably focus on attaining what's possible and learn to endure the rest
I think you have control over these fantasies, just make her grade tests or answer really stupid questions in your fantasies.
my concern isnt about the teacher..its about whether fantasizing is right or wrong... And I am not fantasizing about having sex with her or something lol..I am just fantasizing about cuddling with her and shit lol i kno this is freaky.
If you are a Christian (but the same can be applied to everyone, I think. One of those things no one talks about) it says that if you do the sin in your mind, it is the same as if you did it with your body. However this situation is a tad different. Unless if you are married, what you are thinking about might be inappropriate in today's society, but not sex. Therefore not a "sin" or "morally wrong". I still don't think it's too healthy because a) that's the first step BEFORE sex and it'll lead there eventually and b) you probably don't do too wonderful in that class b/c you can't pay enough attention. To answer the question directly: Is fantasizing right or wrong? With the mind aspect, fantasizing about sex, nudity, or whatever, IS wrong. To fantasize about how happy you would be with that person wouldn't be wrong, in and of itself. If it leads to more in your mind, yeah. But just crushing without the sexual aspect? I don't think that's wrong. Who am I to judge though. I don't have the final say-so, but that's just my opinion.
For me, fantasizing was always counterproductive. I always found that when I fantasized I was building an emotional investment into the person. Even if I wasn't jerking it, the fantasies would always eventually escalate to such. Might want to ween your way out of fantasizing and spend your time doing more productive things instead. It's good that you're not fapping, but look at it this way: would you advise a recovering alcoholic hang out at a bar, even if they only intended to order soda?
I would say that the vast majority (like every human ever to walk this earth) has fantasized. So in that sense it is perfectly normal, on the other hand for me fantasizing is something that quite often will lead me to relapse, so I try and keep my fantasies from getting to big because before i know it i will edge to the fantasies then bam! I've relapsed completely. so if you don't want to relapse i would try to at least be aware of what your doing when you fantasize.
Hmm thanks guys but I have decided to not fantasize for a while..lets see how that works out! Maybe the recovery process might speed up!
