Any help appreciated.. need to vent.

Be prepared and accept.
You know therell be hot girls at the gym so youll just have to accept it.
Make plans for what to do when you get back from the gym, call you mom or grannie or whatever, youre gonna have to be prepared to do some changes if youre going to master this, and also put in some work, results wont just come to you by themself.

 

hello nemdoo,
I didn't know i had a second account on here
no but seriously bro i can relate to every single thing in your OP.
i failed my 8 day streak last night to.
my advice on how to deal with beautiful women (as far as you should take advice from me) is dont.
just dont deal with it in the way your used to and that is beating yourself upover them and then watching and fapping.
want to be my accountability partner? i think we could really help eachother bro

 

Stick with it the commitment and getting healthy. Be patient and you'll build more resistance.

When I was deep in porn, I remember what a perv I was - getting around uni, noticing all the lookers and thinking obsessive sexy thoughts about them -naked, moaning etc lol. Or not even having the will power to /not/ look at the couple making out/the girl showing >skin -so obvious, so uncool.

Lol but I can laugh about it now. Although I once suspected its impossible, you do eventually get more purified and able to stop gawking at sexy strangers or the pleasure of the m. It's a matter of challenging dumb cultural assumptions and reordering your priorities in life: believe it or not, but orgasms actually don't top the list -and we can't be happy till we put this urge in it's right place

 

This is something I can relate to nemdoo.

The insatiable desire is part of the challenge.It can drive you crazy, so many hot girls and none for you. Like Scaramanga said you have to be prepared and accept.

But, I think you are approaching it from the wrong angle.You said you have ZERO female interaction but only mention the beauties...from my experience the hotties are trouble ( no offense hotties). Your after someone you can connect with aren't you? Its easy to over look the other women that are out there if they don't attract the 'beautiful model' of our minds. I was 29 before my first girlfriend and I know it is because I made it hard on myself by only seeing the girls my porn mind thought were ideal.

Understand that you are not after every girl, only one. So start thinking about your 'approach strategy'.Here is another challenge for you , I think it would help you if set a little goal of just saying Hi and how are you today? to the next girl you come close to when you are out.Try it once every few days. She doesn't have to be a 'beauty' but just a girl that looks receptive to you.Don't bother if she doesn't want anything to do with you, you only get cut. But if one does respond or is interested then its good and will give you a much needed confidence boost, if not don't worry your job is done and you have learned a little, ready to move onto the next girl.By starting to do little things like this then after a time you have learned and changed alot. Do you accept?(PM me if you do)You have got some learning to do, and this may be the key to curing your loneliness!Thoughts into action and remember girls want someone to talk to!
Girls can tell if a guy approaches them with sex on the mind, instead of just wanting to converse. I know its hard especially doing NoFap but you need to not think about sex when talking to a girl because it changes your communication signals and they back off. so you need a clear intention. ask yourself 'why do I want to interact with her'.

go champ!
CK

 

Well if i were you i would start volunteering or something to get out of the house and be around people and other woman. another thing you could do is call your mom or family members and spend time with them if that is possible in your case. I feel for you because its extremely hard to get on your own to feet without the help of other caring individuals of both sexes around you, best of luck!

 

i hate that!you think your going to the gym so it can help get rid of those urges but then when you get there you get those damn urges!i used to be in that situation and this is what i did to overcome it.
-go at night: not a lot of people go at night (hopefully) and less people could mean less hotties
-work the fuck out: try to get as tired as you can (especially your arms)so this way youll be too tired to fap
-not tired enough: quick work out at home some sit ups, bicep curls if you have any dumbbells.
This is what i did to get over the girls at the gym and it worked for me so hopefully it works for you. first of all it will keep you from relapsing all the time. second of all youll get in great shape faster.
best of luck i hope youll be able to reach those 30 days.

 

Your doing the right thing dude. First off well done for joining the gym, it's always good to take up something new when you give up something else. If I were you I would focus on what you CAN do and not what you can't. If your going to the gym just focus on doing your thing. Get on an exercise program and be consistent in sticking to achieving your goals. After a month or so of good exercise and your feeling fitter and stronger your confidence will grow. Just remember your body will change but it doesn't happen over night just keep trying to improve and one day soon enough you will notice a big difference. The mind is no different and by solely improving yourself physically this should have a direct effect on your mental well being and soon enough when you feel good about yourself it will be easier to talk to girls. Just remember girls are awesome but that doesn't mean that you are beneath them nor does it mean that just because you see a girl you should run up and start chatting. Just be natural and confident in yourself and if a conversation comes up then great or if a passing smile is all the situation calls your then that's ok too. Remember just be polite and don't try too hard and you'll be just fine.

Good luck with everything!

 

Just start right now by saying "Hi, hows it going" to 50 women with no agenda. Just being friendly and keep walking. Show no care about them answering. All women you see, not only hot ones. Young, old, fat skinny all races. No matter what kind of mood they're in. Watch what happens. I guarantee it will work.

 

+1 to saying "hi"