Penis is numb to touch but feels jolts of pain, lack of pleasure

leo737 · Apr 8, 2017

Trying to figure out what exactly is wrong with my penis. By the way I am uncircumcised.

First thing is first, I started out having orgasms with porn when I was about 12 and didn't have any contact with a girl until I was 22 (now 24) and it was hard to keep an erection that first time and I didn't orgasm, and from doing research figured I was addicted to porn. Didn't have much sexual contact for a long time. I have been slowly easing off the porn and fighting addiction, and I'm up to the point where I can go up to a week or 2 without masturbating to porn. Feel that I can go for longer

Recently I received oral and I could keep an erection, but I felt absolutely nothing. There was a point where she got into a 69 position, (so I couldnt see her performing oral) and I literally could not tell I was getting a blowjob. When she played with my frenulum I would feel jolts of pain, no pleasure, and when she licked the head of my penis I felt nothing.

Not like it didn't feel good nothing, like if I closed my eyes I could not even tell she was licking the head of my penis, nothing. The only way I could ever get off was from her jerking me off.

When I touch my penis head with something that isn't my fingers all I feel is light jolts that are painful, it doesn't feel pleasurable at all. I almost can't tell that I am touching my penis, the sensations are very muted.

I also tried having intercourse with a condom on, and again no feeling whatsoever. It was like I had a phantom penis.

I'm not sure what this is, is it penis desensitization from watching porn? nerve damage?

When I would masturbate with porn, it was almost always dry, but I would masturbate by retracting my foreskin, so didn't stimulate the head directly with my hands much. When I use porn it is almost like I get off to queues from the porn, like when a woman goes into a certain position, or when I hear certain sounds. It is all visual/auditory.

Any help would be GREATLY appreciated, this has really started to mess with me and I'm getting worried I will never experience the gift of great sex with a woman. I know that I can't be broken yet and there has to be a fix. I will provide any more information needed. Thank You.

Broski · Apr 8, 2017

I'd see a doctor for that. Sounds pretty extreme to be just desensitization. Could possibly be nerve damage...

jocad · Apr 8, 2017

leo,

buddy, your experience sounds SO MUCH like what i've struggled with. i don't know exactly when i started watching porn, but i imagine it was sometime around 13 or 14 years old, and i just started my real quit-job from PMO three weeks ago, at age 26. so we've basically been suffering through the same things for about the same amount of time.

i didn't have contact with a girl until 21. i didn't know it then, but in hindsight, all my problems were porn-related. i couldn't get it up unless i started stroking it myself. it made me feel really bad because she wanted to help me get it up without my touching myself, and it was never as "up" as it would be when i watched porn. realistically, i should never have had ANY problems getting it up with her haha.

my next sexual contact didn't happen until 23, and it was the same thing. i wanted to spend more time on her so i didn't have to struggle with getting it up. (it didn't help that i masturbated about six hours before this encounter.) but i had the same problems with the sensations and with the arousal. i didn't have your experience of feeling jolts, but it definitely didn't feel as good as it should have felt.

over the next couple years, i had real sex a few times, all with a condom, and i had the exact same feeling of phantom penis that you're talking about. it probably didn't help that i sometimes PMOed with a condom on, so i contributed to my desensitization both with and without a condom!

my experience with PMO is exactly the same as yours, from a dry PMO to waiting for certain visual and auditory cues from the porn i was watching. so i'm here to tell you, YOU CAN BREAK FREE FROM IT. this is my first really structured attempt to quit PMO, but i have tried before with limited success. i had streaks that would last anywhere from 3-7 days before i relapsed, and the longest i would ever go is two weeks. but when i would have those porn-free stretches, i noticed the small benefits that would come my way, and the intimacy with my current girlfriend would be a lot better than if i had PMOed that same day or the day before. so while i have yet to see the full benefits, i can already tell intimacy with my woman is going to be a lot better when we have a chance to be physically together again, so long as i keep this streak going and take care of the rest of my health too.

if you really are worried about your physical penile health, don't be afraid to seek out medical attention. but my advice to you would be to take a deep breath and resolve to go for longer if you really feel like you can go for longer without PMO. don't quit on yourself if you have to reset or if you relapse. but you have the capability of giving yourself the chance to have great sex with a real woman. it won't always be easy, but it will be so worth it.

good luck.

leo737 · Apr 8, 2017

Broski said: ↑

I'd see a doctor for that. Sounds pretty extreme to be just desensitization. Could possibly be nerve damage...
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Been considering a doctor, but from what I've read a lot of people don't have good experience talking to doctors that understand porn related symptoms.

jocad said: ↑

leo,

buddy, your experience sounds SO MUCH like what i've struggled with. i don't know exactly when i started watching porn, but i imagine it was sometime around 13 or 14 years old, and i just started my real quit-job from PMO three weeks ago, at age 26. so we've basically been suffering through the same things for about the same amount of time.

i didn't have contact with a girl until 21. i didn't know it then, but in hindsight, all my problems were porn-related. i couldn't get it up unless i started stroking it myself. it made me feel really bad because she wanted to help me get it up without my touching myself, and it was never as "up" as it would be when i watched porn. realistically, i should never have had ANY problems getting it up with her haha.

my next sexual contact didn't happen until 23, and it was the same thing. i wanted to spend more time on her so i didn't have to struggle with getting it up. (it didn't help that i masturbated about six hours before this encounter.) but i had the same problems with the sensations and with the arousal. i didn't have your experience of feeling jolts, but it definitely didn't feel as good as it should have felt.

over the next couple years, i had real sex a few times, all with a condom, and i had the exact same feeling of phantom penis that you're talking about. it probably didn't help that i sometimes PMOed with a condom on, so i contributed to my desensitization both with and without a condom!

my experience with PMO is exactly the same as yours, from a dry PMO to waiting for certain visual and auditory cues from the porn i was watching. so i'm here to tell you, YOU CAN BREAK FREE FROM IT. this is my first really structured attempt to quit PMO, but i have tried before with limited success. i had streaks that would last anywhere from 3-7 days before i relapsed, and the longest i would ever go is two weeks. but when i would have those porn-free stretches, i noticed the small benefits that would come my way, and the intimacy with my current girlfriend would be a lot better than if i had PMOed that same day or the day before. so while i have yet to see the full benefits, i can already tell intimacy with my woman is going to be a lot better when we have a chance to be physically together again, so long as i keep this streak going and take care of the rest of my health too.

if you really are worried about your physical penile health, don't be afraid to seek out medical attention. but my advice to you would be to take a deep breath and resolve to go for longer if you really feel like you can go for longer without PMO. don't quit on yourself if you have to reset or if you relapse. but you have the capability of giving yourself the chance to have great sex with a real woman. it won't always be easy, but it will be so worth it.

good luck.
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DUDE, THANK YOU.

Just knowing someone else has been feeling the same way makes me feel a lot better. I found some articles by a doctor named Robert Weiss, and have read about how it could possibly take several months to a year to fully recover. I have had a few relapses trying to quit, but I am really up to the point where whatever it takes to one day be recovered is my number one priority. I am constantly documenting my penile experiences in a journal so I can see the changes.

I am hoping it is just neurons that are wired incorrectly that will slowly heal and return back to a "default" state over a long period of time. My penis isn't COMPLETELY numb, like if I hit it with something I feel something, but it is as if all pleasure receptors are gone.

Again, thanks for letting me know I'm not alone.

J247 · Apr 8, 2017

There are multiple people on yourbrainonporn that state that they have had bad cases of anaconda death grip or prone masturbation cause their sensitivity to go out the window. They recover, it just takes longer than the 90 days. If you're patient, good things will come.

Health is key · Apr 8, 2017

leo737 said: ↑

Trying to figure out what exactly is wrong with my penis. By the way I am uncircumcised.

First thing is first, I started out having orgasms with porn when I was about 12 and didn't have any contact with a girl until I was 22 (now 24) and it was hard to keep an erection that first time and I didn't orgasm, and from doing research figured I was addicted to porn. Didn't have much sexual contact for a long time. I have been slowly easing off the porn and fighting addiction, and I'm up to the point where I can go up to a week or 2 without masturbating to porn. Feel that I can go for longer

Recently I received oral and I could keep an erection, but I felt absolutely nothing. There was a point where she got into a 69 position, (so I couldnt see her performing oral) and I literally could not tell I was getting a blowjob. When she played with my frenulum I would feel jolts of pain, no pleasure, and when she licked the head of my penis I felt nothing.

Not like it didn't feel good nothing, like if I closed my eyes I could not even tell she was licking the head of my penis, nothing. The only way I could ever get off was from her jerking me off.

When I touch my penis head with something that isn't my fingers all I feel is light jolts that are painful, it doesn't feel pleasurable at all. I almost can't tell that I am touching my penis, the sensations are very muted.

I also tried having intercourse with a condom on, and again no feeling whatsoever. It was like I had a phantom penis.

I'm not sure what this is, is it penis desensitization from watching porn? nerve damage?

When I would masturbate with porn, it was almost always dry, but I would masturbate by retracting my foreskin, so didn't stimulate the head directly with my hands much. When I use porn it is almost like I get off to queues from the porn, like when a woman goes into a certain position, or when I hear certain sounds. It is all visual/auditory.

Any help would be GREATLY appreciated, this has really started to mess with me and I'm getting worried I will never experience the gift of great sex with a woman. I know that I can't be broken yet and there has to be a fix. I will provide any more information needed. Thank You.
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Hey man, don't stress this is 100% pied. The reason you feel nothing and can't come is all to do with arousal actually. I highly doubt you have any nerve damage. I have exactly the same problem as you. Can't even get a boner for sex actually. The more you abstain the greater sensitivity you will receive in your penis and the more aroused you will get in your brain. You can't just abstain from porn though. I'm learning at the moment that you need to abstain from m to regain those arousal levels (by preventing orgasm).

alameda · Apr 8, 2017

I have exactly the same problem. it's good to know I'm not the only one. "phantom penise" indeed

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