My life of sadness

I understand your pain, now try to understand my pain.

Im 27, Till 23 years of age I was extremely obese, so I never had a gf.
I took refuge in PMO but then I lost weight.
From 23 to 27 I had ED, and PIED, so no gf, Im single today.
I met 2 women , they were women of my dreams but I never asked them out because I was afraid i will not be able to get an erection and i will be embarrassed, i let them go,
And now im rebooting.
Its better late than never bro , everyone has troubles,. no one's life is perfect.

We have to take the hits from life and move on.

 

What i learned till now is ...
Life is not fair for everyone. All we have to do is to deal with it. Finally life isnt even about having bunch of girls. Its about being satisfied with what you have got and further what you can improve.

Life can go from 0 to 100 if you begin to focus on positive aspects and ofc do your Karma.( Duty , work or w.e you may call )

 

...it's very important to address the realities of suicide, 1st if you are successful *most attempts are not* you effectively take your pain and pass it on to the people love or care about you, pretty sh*tty legacy. Possibly even worse would be an unsuccessful suicide that would leave you even more physically broken or mentally incapacitated. i am pretty sure that would be even worse than you current situation, i've struggled with suicidal thoughts on and off through out my life. The most important thing to overcome the thought process that leads to these feelings is 'suicide is a permanent answer to a temporary problem'
Have i thought about killing myself ?
yes i have
Am i glad i didn't ?
every time
life has some many options, plz do not write your's off

Peace

 

Been on the same boat, as many guys here. I'm not sure why we share so many life stories besides fapping addiction, it all seems so related, but I'm still trying to figure out if we are like that because of pmo, or if pmo is only one of the coping mechanisms for this depression/life sucks behavior.

Anyway, just my two cents regarding what helped me and what might help you: Start to see the good side of things and be grateful for what you have. I know it sounds cheesy, but it's an exercise. It takes time to actually do it without thinking. We usually tend to dwell on the bad stuff and we completely forget what is good. I used to think that this kind of thought is horse shit, since it sounds so religious-y.. But it has nothing to do with religion, it has nothing to do with "being good and grateful just to go to heaven". It's like, it actually does something to your brain in a good way. Being empathetic towards other people make you see that your problems are not that great. Also, stop judging yourself and others.

On a side note, I hope you can find peace towards what you can't change and find strength to change what can be changed.

Good luck, man! Cheers.

 

As a man with ongoing chronic health issues and constantly living with pain, I understand you frustration and sadness. But the porn isn't the solution. We all should realize this. Good luck with your recovery.