Am I too obsessed with NoFap?

U should have something in between. A mix of Nofap time and the focus on other things. Stay focused on the important things first. It's not bad to read some success stories when U have a hard time (urges). But else u need to live life first. As u still relapse, even when you're all the time on the nofap forum.

Good luck finding the right mix for you!

 

I think it's okay to invest a good amount of time into NoFap. I know my first day I spent practically the whole day browsing NoFap, but now I generally just check it in between work or classes. I'd say the only real downside would be, like you said, relapsing. Try focusing your time and energy on living your life like you and Jonasvw said. Otherwise NoFap will most likely become just another obstacle rather than a platform for support. Good luck with it, you know you can do it

 

Use it as a tool, not a crutch. Unless you need a crutch to stand.

Edit: I suppose a crutch is a tool of sorts.

But do you want to walk with a crutch for the rest of your days? Gotta practice walking without it if not.

 

Have you identified your triggers? Whenever you feel the urge to masturbate, try to instead do something else positive. Go for a walk in public, write in a journal, do something besides fap.

When you try to replace a bad habit with a good one instead, you're rewiring your brain so that whenever your trigger comes on, eventually you'll have the urge to do your positive habit instead. Simply delaying the urge or attempting to distract yourself by watching tv or something that will put you in a setting with easy access to porn will ultimately cause you to relapse.

 

Hey, Av! Thanks for your post. For what it’s worth, I’m thinking that:
(a) it may not be so much the amount of NoFap but the kind of NoFap. Nothing against success stories, but personally I never read them concentrating instead on what I need to know in the trenches on low counter digits. It may well be useful, for instance, to learn from others who have relapsed, to recognize similar dangers in your own life (in fact, that happened to me today).
(b) I’m increasingly convinced that we cannot rely just on putative brain rewiring for success, but that we must understand and redirect the emotional things this addiction is attached to and covering up. In other words, we need to dig into the problems with our addiction, especially those deeper than the need for distractions. What are we getting out of it and how can we redirect that dynamic? It’s a very personal, individual challenge.
(c) Lastly, I think that if we use NoFap constructively, to dig ourselves out of the hole we’ve buried our lives in rather than to mostly dream of salvation and marvel at what’s been possible for others, that NoFap then is a very useful stepping stone out of the mire and I think I’ve gotten that impression from others, too.
Just my 2 cents worth...
Good luck, my brother!