Losing myself: PMO again after nearly a year free

This one hits me close to home, man.

I was PMO free for about 4 years, then a very close friend of mine (a girl who at one point I was engaged to) moved away... I was alright for about a year. But I was battling depression and trying to get by without her, then I relapsed hard when it finally sunk in how much I missed her and that I'd probably never see her again. I knew I was digging myself into something that would be almost impossible to get out of, and I've tried on my own to pull myself back out of it for the past 2 and a half years. I'm married now with a child on the way, and still fighting this demon that I let back into my life. Still trying to fight my way out of the numb and empty feelings that I became so used to.

You can do this. My advice to you is cut the shit out now. If you're only a few weeks back into your relapse, you've got a fighting chance. You don't want to be like me; I was clean for 4 years, and in a few months if I haven't beaten this, I'll have been off the wagon again for 3. You want to look back on this as a minor relapse that you cleared your head of and got out quick. So get out quick.

You've got my prayers.

 

I've been in the same situation. When I had a girlfriend I abstained 1,5 year from PMO. Until we broke up and she found directly someone else. This has been 3 years ago, and I'm still struggling to fight back since I let myself down and keep falling deeper into this addiction. Believe me, this isn't worth at all!

U don't have this addiction anymore, it's for you now way easier to abstain from it forever. Don't let yourself down, otherwise u will wake up after some years and realize what a mess u made..

For what it's worth it, this girl isn't worth all this shit. Eventually u will find someone who will stay and will be a thousand times better for you.

 

LOL, we have so many jaded lovers here

I kind of agree with above guys, if you take 100 women, i would think only 5 out of 100 will be loyal, rest of them just jump from one guy to the other
Such women have no feelings, or empathy for anyone, they are selfish beings only good for bad treatment,
They deserve to be treated like shit by players and bad boys, and they disregard nice guys and feel no attraction for them.

 

Wow. A lot of you guys have a very negative view of women. You may not be wrong that a lot will use men. But a lot of men use women. By the way if we are or were using P then we are using women. We are using some poor girl that got led into a life of degrading herself for money.

Also, maybe if you are meeting lots of bad women you need to consider where you are meeting these women. Find places or organizations that attract people that are into good things.

If PMO is like alcohol or drug addiction, and I think it is, then you do always have this addiction. You just aren't in the same terrible situation you were when you were completely habituated to it. You have more self control early in a relapse than you do later. But I agree completely that you have to use what willpower you have now to get away from this as quickly as you can. You have to remember why you quit in the first place.

 

Right on, man! I have had my heart broken more than once, and whether it was porn, junk food, or binge video game playing, I was doing that to me. Yeah they put you in a situation but it is up to you on how to deal with it.

 

So you fell, it's tough. But you can get back up. I won't lie, we have all had our heats broken and it isn't fun, and it can lay you low. But have faith in yourself, be honest with yourself, think of where you want to go and know you're never truly alone. You are a part of humanity.

 

Might I suggest some therapy to explore how anger and hatred toward women contribute to PMO addiction? I haven't heard such misogyny in a very long time.

Broken hearts suck. Men suck and are manipulative, too.

 

I'm going to clean up this thread and remove the misogynistic posts about women. Stay on topic or this thread will be locked. Thank you.