And it was awful! Last Thursday it happened and I felt down for a good 4 days after. This girl who I'm not really into really likes me so I just went along with it (as you do) due to being at like 2 weeks no PMO I thought I was horny. I've actually been in flatline since I began 18 days ago and also stopped smoking weed on the same day. This is my first attempt so my longest streak so I figured I must have wanted sex, the girl is not ugly, not a stunner, nice [nsfw]curvy[/nsfw] body but not fat. We were both laying [nsfw]naked[/nsfw] on her bed and she was giving me [nsfw]oral[/nsfw]. It felt ok but I was not getting hard, I started to touch and feel her body but still nothing. I felt like I was outside my body just watching what was happening thinking wtf are you doing? [nsfw]She has a mirror on her wardrobe and I was using it to have a look at her behind which is very nice, but still nothing! She told me to relax, I tried to get in the moment, the sounds of it turned me on more than the actual feelings.[/nsfw] Anyway after a good 5 maybe 7 mins of this it started to feel good and I was getting hard... Yay! Nay! I got a bit harder and about 30 seconds later I orgasmed the least fulfilling orgasm I've ever had haha. I felt like shit immediately. This has happened once before, and I'm thinking it was some kind of PIED? After that though I stayed pretty hard and round 2 was just like normal sex I've had. But my question is, has this happened to anyone before and is it porn related? What I mean is has anyone struggled getting hard, only to finally get hard and cum very soon after. It was not a rock solid erection and for 2 weeks no PMO the orgasm was not very intense and there was not much semen ejaculated. I expected to be super responsive and cum like a volcano but it was weird and very anticlimactic. After we had sex with a condom and I last usual time so I'm not totally convinced I have ED. Anyway, I'm going to hit 30 days and go to 90 in hard mode incase it is PIED. I tried to be as matter of fact and non graphic as possible here as not to trigger anyone. Look forward to the replies and thanks in advance.
Hey man! I think that might be due to the fact that you were not really attracted to her in the beginning (no connection). Also, you were probably feeling guilty of doing it so your brain was getting mixed signals. My "driest" period was a few years ago and lasted about 2-2.5 years in which I watched a lot of porn. I think I might had PIED with the first 2 girls I had intercourse with after that dry period (not the 2 at the same time lol). But I think I was mostly stressed and anxious (performance-related). It was so difficult just to get it up, and I felt really bad because of that. Don't worry about it and try to move on. It'll get up with the next one Keep up the good work!
Thanks dude, you're prob right as it felt forced and just "going through the motions" with her, she was quite attractive though. I'm actually worried about the next time I have sex and embarrassing myself now. A few times I can laugh off, repeating this issue could harm me.
Better? I need advice from males that have had sex before and there is a clue in the title suggesting the content of the thread.
The advice I'm about to tell you might sound girly-ish but if you're really stressed upon your next night with a lady, go slow and communicate with her. Most women are good listeners and if you get the chance to spend some quality time with her, you'll be more confident and relaxed. Just try not to cum in 2 seconds like my first time with my actual girlfriend hahaha
Dude yes, This happened the last time i hooked up. I had been pmo free for about three weeks before that, and as we got intimate i noticed i was having a hard time getting aroused. so the first night I really just focused on pleasing her, the morning after sex was a joke and I came without being fully erect, so embarrassing and humiliating..but i talked to her about it, i hadnt had sex for about 2.5 years before her so i was a little rusty, but that night, after the morning incident, went well. and so did the next morning. I learned I have a lot of improvement to focus on like diet and exercise and overall health. a nice job wouldnt hurt either but where is a super talented artist going to find work?
Nice, so it's all working fine for you now? I'm sure it helped you were in some kind of relationship with your broad and could talk to her about it and have multiple attempts. Yes embarrassing yes humiliating lol!
Im not really in a relationship with her but we get along pretty well. not PMOing actually helped get me a date with her in the first place. but that incident was super humiliating and I had to tell her what was up and she actually understood.
Had sex again this morning, and it was fantastic! Again? I know right, I hadn't had sex since February And since starting NoFap I've had sex twice! I met this girl in club last night, we had a lot of things in common, spent the night mainly with her and towards the end she invited me back to her place. Now I've taken a pill (x) and some MDMA and drinking heavily so my dick is not responding to any of her gyrating while in the club. I told her not to worry as he'll perk up when I've sobered up later on. Get back to hers now, and my dick is still mainly a sleep, I put a condom on and it kills him completely so we go to sleep and I tell her I'll be good in the morning. Morning comes and I wake up a little hard and initiate fore play, she gets up, we get down an it was amazing! My erection fluctuated from rock hard to like 70% but I lasted well over an hour (prob due to drugs) and I could get hard from her touch and the way she felt. It did help that I had a real connection with this girl and she was very sexual and it turned me on. I did immediately want to gtfo out her flat as soon as I came though and just wanted to be home in my bed but this was definate progress. If I was still watching porn i probably wouldn't have bothered to spend so much time with her in the club and get to know her, therefore I wouldn't have got invited back to hers. Also, since getting back home I can't stop thinking about it, the whole experience, I want to M! I don't want P just to relive the memories!
Good stuff bro! The real connection thing is a big plus. Just like sometimes you don't feel any vibe from the hottest girl in the room, but you get really interested in the cute one in the back because she "radiates" something. I'm happy to hear you got a great time. Keep us posted, it's nice to see improvements! Rookie_Wookie
