I still have love for my ex I opened up to her about things I would never open up to anyone else about I was with her for a year and a half and my pied definitely took a toll on our relationship .. everything was great between us and we were able to successfully have sex 4 times but one time after we had sex the chaser effect hit me and I relapsed after that I wasn't able to have sex with her and it just led to her giving up on sex for a while.. about 2months after we tried again and still nothing ..so I decided to let her go because I felt like she was unhappy and that's not fair to her but now I just miss her so much and these past months I have been trying to fill the hole she left with other girls and even when I'm with I think about her and miss her.. if sex wasn't a problem this girl definitely had potential to b my future wife everything with us was perfect anyone have any advice she still tries to talk to me but i just make myself unavailable because her wanting to know what I'm up to gives me a good feeling because it gives me some dory of hope I guess that maybe one day we could b togetaher , but does anyone have any advice? Should I not talk to other girls till I'm over her ? Should I still try even after we only had sex 4 times in a year in a half and more than 30 failed sex attempts
I am against having sex with people you don't care just to get over someone. If those girls you have been having sex with in this period would feel something for you? that's not nice. I felt in that way and that is using someone to lessen your pain without considering other's feelings. I had sex once when I was suffering because of an ex. It was horrible. The guy was nice and went to come with me at the station but I just felt horrible. Rebound never helps Hurt people hurt people. Sex is not everything in a relationship. would you be with someone in the long run only because she's good at sex? lol Come on. She didn't leave you even if you had have sex with her few times in your time together. You left her Given that you are still in touch with your ex girlfriend and she sounds still interested I would say get back with her. You miss her. I am girl so if you could clarify something I can help you better. Why you couldn't have sex with her most of the time? due to porn?
THIS IS GOLDEN ADVICE. Its one of the best advices I ever read on nofap. I mean each and every line of this comment is so true and No one else can give you any better suggestion. THIS ADVICE IS FOR REAL. A girl once liked me, but due to my ED, I rejected her but she was so hurt, she went on a sex rampage and acted slutty. She called up all her exes, her friends everyone and flirted with everyone and even had sex with them. But later, she told me, SHE COULDNT EVEN GET WET WITH ANY OF THEM, SHE WAS FORCING SEX WITH THEM, and guess what happend after that? She fell in love with me even more because now she believed that no one can satisfy her like me . Its a downward spirtal, the rebound relationships never ever work specially if your ex is perfect in your eyes. You will just end up feeling hurt, pain and more in love with your ex. The best way to heal over a break is to be SINGLE , to the point where you can enjoy being SINGLE, You can go to a movie theatre all by yourself and enjoy without being defined by your partner. Thats the best way to get over a breakup.
you gotta accept that she's her own adult...talk to her explain the shit you've been trough (tho she already knows) and then ask her if she really want to be part of that to help you heal...let it be really clear that you love her but it won't be a day in the park. That you really see potential in her being the love of your life but that you are not just yet ready to be even a healthy man for yourself....if she wants part on it then by all means because you love her...but is her own decision and her responsability too
Yeah pretty much because of PIED and I noticed how she started to get more and more impatient when we were about to have sex, also it came to a point where once she felt I was getting a little soft before sex she would say "babe your getting soft let's just not do this it's gonna be another fail " she didn't have patience with me and I don't blame her for that because not everyone wants to go though that with someone . Also I noticed every time I had a pied episode she would get less and less intimate with me (kissing , hugging, cuddling etc) and she kinda started to distance herself.. I explained to her I love her dearly and that it makes me feel like shit that I can't have sex with my girl that I love whenever I want and she understood , but then she told me "I don't know how much more of this I can take" and so that's when I ended it because I felt right there at that point she was completely done trying and burnt out so I told her I love her enough to see her happy and I didn't wanna put the burden on her anymore so I ended it
there are other ways to have fun in the bedroom, try the tongue game, the use of sex objects..the fact that you are not functioning properly doesn't mean she can't be satisfied...do these things and when you feel ready try to use your soldier for the task...even if it fails then go back to toying with her....embrace the opportunity for your member to heal and for you to learn and explore new sex tricks that might drive her full crazy
Do you think I should cut off all the girls I've been trying to substitute with And just work on myself I am a 20yr old healthy male will be 21 this month
i think so man, your plate seems full to me to add different girls in it...every person is it's own universe and at this moment you are trying to deal with all that? man human relationship has to be the most time and energy consuming activity ever...besides you are not productive at all when expending your time and vitality trying to hook up....ditch those girls and think about whether being alone or with your ex gf who knows about all this stuff and seems she wants to stick together no matter what. Use this time to build the man you want to be for the rest of your life, you are still young time is in your favor but remember, time is of the essence too
