so lonely - no friends - no life - all i have is sex chat

You know NoFap can't magically make you friend / girl machine if you don't do it yourself?You can't sit in your house 24/7 and expect shit to change....
Go out , hit the gym , go swimming , go kickboxing / MMA , pick up some sports that you like.. streetfitness there are tons of things you can do and get friends rather than wait for some magic to happen.
NoFap can only boost the progress not make the progress itself.

 

ZYZZ is giving you good advice on things to do. Take action by doing things that you find interesting. Often times I see people give advice about going to bars and parties to meet others. Those situations can cause much more anxiety then they are worth. You would be surprised how many people you can meet and talk with in places like coffee shops and book stores where others aren't putting up big fronts.

 

True, it is good advice but my guess is you don't feel like doing that right now. Having your selfworth so low it seems to big a thing to accomplish. I'ver been addited to sexchats for several years and I understand why you do it. didn't even talk about sex to these girls but just average day things just to make conversation. Mostly they liked me because they didnt't have to say or do any weird stuff which made me feel good in return. But when it comes to it it still isn't like the real thing, it doesn't make you feel good when you log out again and face your real life. It costed me quite some years (and especially money!) to get rid of this addiction which is a world on it's own. For me it was a social addiction and nothing like my porn, alcohol or drug addiction.

What eventually worked for me was accepting myself as someone who is worthy of someone else's time. As they say, love yourself so other people can too. Something that is hard to do by yourself but which ever way you turn it, it comes down to that. You are worthy of being around other people and being liked, you "just" have to start that yourself.

 

Hi kkbrighton,
Unfortunately it's a circular trap. You feel lonely so you do something that isolates you and you're back feeling lonely again. I know its hard, but embrace that feeling of loneliness. Its a very powerful and uncomfortable emotion, the easy way to temporarily relieve it is obvious, but if you don't you will be rewarded with the drive and determination to end your isolation. We are social creatures and if you give it a chance this part of you will assert itself strongly. Yes it will still feel scary and cause some anxiety to step outside of your comfort zone but you will do it none the less, its inevitable when you dont appease it with fake interaction!
You can do it!