Can I be helped?

There is no easy answer. You have to tough it out and stop masturbating too. The good news is that you can reverse the damage and have normal sex some day. Even better news is that the longer you abstain from masturbation the easier it gets to stay quit. I'd say the hardest part is the first 2 weeks for a rookie Fapstronaut.

 

Well, that's an escape for you. Who'd ever want to be with someone with such horrific expectations? You may all sorts of challenges in your life, but no one deserves to be treated like that. You're much better off.

 

Everybody feels that they can't do NoFap at first. But you have to try if you are going to succeed. Usually success comes after failures. But you have to look at failures as learning how to succeed. You can identify chinks in your armor when you fail. And next time you can plug up that hole. Eventually your armor will be invincible and then you will succeed. YOU CAN DO IT.

 

There is a cure of course you just have to abstain from Porn and Masturbation for some time (at least 90 days) and you will see that day by day you will feel better and the problem will fade away.

About what happened well that is just awful and i cannot imagine how you felt.But you will meet more girls that are more understanding and are patient.You just stumbled across someone who is the exact opposite.Time to move on though and start NoFap in order to be cured.The journey will be hard but in the end you will see that it is all worth it

 

You have much more strength than you think. YOU WILL MAKE IT! The community will help and support you. The only failure is to give up and run away. The NO PMO journey will not be easy but worth the effort.

I love it. THANKS.

 

You are lucky that you doges a bullet. I would never get involved with a woman who is just in for sex , I mean thats horrible.
Fuck that woman!, Find a good woman who can understand you as a person and doesnt want a sex machine.
Also, yeah you can do it, do 90 days pmo, although i think you would need more time to reboot,
But still do 90 days and see where it goes.

 

If you'll do anything, that's a great start and a promising sign of your potential.

Let's say porn is off the table and you're not viewing it at all. What are the non-pornographic triggers that push you toward masturbating? Is it loneliness? Boredom? Depression? Stress? If you can start to reverse-engineer those influences, you can start learning how to recognize when you're in a vulnerable state of mind. Instead of your subconscious mind going, "well, I'm bored, so f*** it, I'm going to masturbate," you can have your conscious mind go, "well, I'm bored, so I need to pick that interesting book up again / call that friend I haven't gotten back to / hit the gym / take a walk / etc".

As far as the woman you were with, forget about her. Chances are, porn has dramatically affected her expectations around sex just like yours have. Take some time to just work on you.

 

I'm new to NoFap and I'm trying to find out what rebooting is?