My main reason for wanting to try nofap is to hopefully improve my performance in bed. My only struggle is taking forever to cum at times. Now there are times where my girlfriend and I need to be able to end it soon and I can be done in 5 minutes or so. But there are other times where I can go for an hour to hour and a half sometimes. I'm not totally sure what she thinks about it. I think that I masturbate a normal amount. Maybe 3 times a week, with sex 2 or 3 times a week on top of it. I'm pretty sure my gf actually enjoys the long bouts of sex because I mean, the more the merrier right? But where it becomes frustrating is when she's blowing me. It feels amazing when she does it but I cannot get off from a bj or a handy. Is this normal or should I be able to get off from it? She's doing everything right but I haven't busted from just that once yet. If no porn and no masturbation for 60 days or so helps this then I'll definitely write a thread about it so hopefully if somebody else has the same issue they'll know the "cure". Cheers
Yes that's what I'm thinking. The weird thing is, sex still feels amazing. I don't have no more feeling down there or anything. But like a blowjob just doesn't do it for me, despite how good it feels.
Ok no jerking off for 2 weeks (no sex either) Only 1 time week 3. That should hit the reset the button Spend that time pleasuring just your girlfriend with oral etc. Your dick needs a reset. I'd hold off on sex till the end of week 3. I know at your age that seems like forever but it will only get worse until you deal with it now
No. I can maintain an erection for as long as I need to. We've gone at it for 3 hours of PIV a couple of times. And she's blown me for an hour and a half but I stayed hard just with no results. Also I am very very comfortable around her which is something that I think is relevant. I'm never afraid to tell her anything about my life or whatever and also what I desire sexually. So I don't think I have DE or anything. The only problem is during a blowjob. I just don't understand why and I'm hoping no PM is going to solve my issue
Ever heard of the coolidge effect? Maybe you're just not as into her anymore bro Nofap should help with you cumming faster though i dont see why you're fapping when you have a girl
No it's definitely not that. When I'm not with her I'm wanting her. PIV is amazing and we keep it interesting enough. It's just the blowjobs man..
I also have DE, and can last 3-4 hours...I've gone for 6 with one girl... The positive though, is that the girl is always satisfied. The negative is that she gets bored, wants me to finish, though sex between us is more of a precise airline flight the girl can get annoyed with not being able to do anything for me. I'm looking into meditation and anxiety ailments to help me. Mental training. As a proudly busy and productive person, most others can not understand how I manage everything going on. I also suspect Deathgrip syndrome, as I have a very specific method for M, which needs to go. No part of M for me translates over to actual sex. Nofap is the way. How many days are you on?
I've just started and I'm on day 4. Not really anything to celebrate just yet. I'm thinking it's just death grip for sure. I tend to do it a lot tighter and harder than anything in the real world would be like. I've found that that's a pretty common thing and not masturbating really is the only cure.
oh word well if it makes you feel any better i cant cum from bjs either except from this one girl Some girls just arent good at it
I feel like really isn't the issue since it feels amazing. Like I feel like I should be able to cum from it but it just doesn't happen. I dunno
The reality is that no vagina will feel like what you're used to with your hand...and why would you want it to? Nofap is a longterm commitment, not a celebration..as soon as you let your guard down temptation will strike...be prepared for action at any time.
I've come to the realization that what I'm doing with my hand just isn't healthy I guess. And the thing is, real sex is so much better so I don't even get why I've been masturbating. I think I do it a normal amount, it's not overtaking my life or anything. But I do think it's one thing that I'd be better off without
Exactly! But.....your brain does not know this...which is what Nofap is for...to help retrain you....it won't happen overnight...and is largely dependent on how much sex your having/your goals....etc. You don't need to masturbate
I haven't been doing nofap for very long but I have had some decent stretches where I've gone a couple weeks without masturbating. But it's easy now because I have a solid sex life. But the thing that's worrying me is at the end of August my girlfriend and I are going away to college and we're going to be 4 hours away. We're both going to go so long without sex from each other and I'm really not wanting to masturbate during any of it.
