fantisy of having sex with another male,

this could be the start of becoming caitlyn jenner

 

I kinda get what you mean, but I don't really fantasize about penetrating another man or getting penetrated. That's out of the question. I do think about oral or mechanical sex with another man sometimes, but that probably stems from my obsession with my own penis. We need to learn to respect our own bodies then decide the way we want to act sexually.

 

May be that, and may be it's also because you used to jerk off while staring at other guys' penises.

All of you, you are not alone. The technical term for this hasn't been dropped in this thread yet. It's homosexual obsessive-compulsive disorder, HOCD. I believe the solution is to focus on love, not sex. As long as you look for casual sex you will always return to fantasizing about a guy, and get dangerously close to acting out by using some shady online platform. It is way easier to find a guy that way than to find a woman. I have been close to doing so multiple times myself; I'm glad I always stopped it in the end. But there are others here who have crossed this line.

Go for love, not sex. I am not even saying this from a moralistic standpoint. It might also be different for you, but from my own experience wanting "just sex" without love always reactivates the neural pathways which make me crave the homosexual experience.

 

I agree one hundred percent. It is lust induced. Authentic love is the true path.

 

You're probably bisexual, you should explore your sexuality and mess around with a dude, it might be fun. You never know until you try it.

 

I respectfully disagree, and I suppose you haven't heard much of HOCD so far, or experienced it yourself. If he was bisexual he would fall in love with a guy in real life. Instead, the fantasies he's having are porn-induced, and they are always accompanied by emotions so ambivalent that they become oppressive.

 

U still got a stronger orgasm with gay fantasies? I did read it from your threads a while back.

 

The only thing that deserves to be called "strong orgasm" is the one you experience during actual sex. With PMO, I would barely call it an orgasm; it's just an ejaculation.

Regardless of that, I might have said something like that earlier, but by now I am relapsing rarely enough so my ejaculation is always bigger than when I did it daily years ago.

 

I had also a fantasy of having submissive anal sex with an strictly anonymous guy or transwoman since my 18th, after i putted a finger in my ass during MO. Not someone particular, as that was nothing aroused at all. Never thought anything of it outside my MO, never thought about being gay or HOCD altough i found that fantasies wierd. They werent there always, only when i was sitting in the shower when MO. So not any influence in the outer world. I never watched any gay porn video and rarely transwoman ones.

After being totally wasted in Thailand, an transgendered person girl/hooker was hanging around me and i thought ''fuck it''. Believe me, i'm heavily traumatized since that event. Awful HOCD etc. Diagnosed with ptsd.

I think, the more attention u give those fantasies, the stronger it will get.

 

You don't need to, you already see zillions of dicks by watching straight porn

Not meaning to sound arrogant, but you might as well "stay open minded" for watching porn then. Like, it might not be that bad, after all?

I know this sounds arrogant nevertheless, but to prove that I am at least speaking from experience and knowledge of the mischievous dynamics of HOCD, here's an old post of mine, back when I was considering hooking up with some anonymous dude to fulfill this sick sexual desire. If you read it, please also consider this answer by @msa2388. (I am not saying anything against homosexuals here, I am merely talking about my desire - my way of desiring it, to be more precise. Sexual OCD exists for gay people as well. For them, it could be just as sick to desire a woman because of porn consumption.)