i had set myself a week ago to hold myself for 7 days without PMO but i had panicattacks & breathing problems and only held for 6 days, then on august 1st i decided to refuse pmo for a whole month until september but only held for 2 days only. This is it, i've read many articles about how to overcome pmo and read succecefull stories but i am a PMO psychopath that simply can't stop. I think i'm going to commit suicide because i can't stand myself anymore, and i can't stand how i am 21 and never had a gf in my life nor do the women have any interest in me, I'M NOTHING to everyone.
i am 36 and i am pornaddict. you are so young. dont think this way. try it again. try 5 days this time. maybe your goal was to high. you can do it!
@otto i can't, I'm a 8 year addict and everytime i see a halfnaked slut i go crazy, they are like moving cocain to me.
Hi besttrueblood I am 19 and like you I have never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, and am useless around girls. Girls don't seem to be interested in me either at the moment. A while ago I was having issues with feeling useless and lonely and told some of my friends that I thought they didn't respect me and asked them if they had an idea of what I was talking about. They had no idea and shrugged it off as- don't be so pathetic. I still think this is the case (the lack of respect), however now I know why. PMO, plain and simple. The reasons they didn't respect me are: 1) I didn't respect myself 2) I had no sexual energy/ not outgoing/ I was too caught up in my own little world (with PMO) Now having made a reasonable effort to abstain I feel much better. I am much more comfortable with being myself. I am more outgoing. I am starting to socialise more. And I am starting to become better at just talking to people, men and women. About abstaining, 6 days is a good achievement! Going for a month is a tall order if you've just started, and you'll most likely lose focus as your goal seems too far away. Build up slowly. Try beating your previous best of 6 days, even beating it by one day will be an achievement, because then you can work your way up to 8 days, and then 9 etc. Don't let the suicidal thoughts creep in when you're already on the road to success! You are not nothing to anyone. To your parents, you are so much. To your friends you are so much. Even the people who you may have lost trust in care about you in some way. Don't lose hope! This is possible! We are all here to support you. If you want to discuss some things, send me a private message Cheers NoBrainer
hey man. you're trying and that alone speaks volumes to your character. be glad you are bettering yourself now before you have a girlfriend. I used to be addicted to drugs. I tried quitting 2 years ago. I relapsed numerous times, could never seem to get past a month. I could have said I'll never make this its hopeless. in fact I had thought that. but with the help of God and never giving up I've now been off drugs over a year. I believe pmo is the last big monkey on my back. my first attempt at this I made it 11 days then I let addiction take over. I learned from it and got back up and reset my counter. I'm back to day 13 now and am really starting to see the benefits in this. Please don't stop trying man. you're worth more than giving up on life over the effects watching people have sex on a screen has on you. you're worth something great, but you're not gonna find out what it isif you just give up.
Hey, whatever you, do not end your life. You are more special to many people than you realise. If you can convince me that where you to die today, there will be no one at your funeral, no one will ever cry or grieve, maybe you are right. But I believe it is not the case. If you died today there will be people who will mourn, grieve and hurt for you. Because they love you and you are special to them. Addiction and depression may make you feel worthless. But that is a lie. You are special and more special than you realise. We all love you here and will lend support where we can. As you can see there has already been more than one reply to this post. People do care about you. I would suggest getting professional help with your depression as soon as possible. It does help. Keep communicating and don't give up
i swear it is the same for me. but you can change this behaviour. first change your view against women. there might be some sluts out there - but not every women is a pornstar. imagine there are also sexaddicted women - they have the same problems like you. people like you and me have too much lust. try to control it. i know it is very very hard but try.
Hey! I had suicidal feelings just like you but I managed to overcome these feelings because I managed to talk these feelings out with someone I trusted. Please talk to someone whom you trust. Please count a day at a time. You are only in control of the present not the future. As much as you set a 7 day goal for no PMO, each day is a victory, celebrate that. Besides, it took you a while to get addicted it will require a while to reboot. You are only 21 years of age. Take this as a challenge you must overcome. Life is full of challenges that we must be overcome. PMO can make one become self centered and make you think that no one cares about you but this is not true. Someone cares!
Dude, you haven't failed. Let me repeat that. YOU. HAVE. NOT. FAILED. You just relapsed, hit a set back. That's all. You don't fail because you relapse, you only fail when you give up. If you fall off the wagon, just climb back on and try again. Take it day by day if you have to. Remember that every "clean" day is a step forward. And I say this as a 21 year addict!
Man, I agree with everyone who posted here. You're still young, it is not the end of everything. We all have our own stories and journeys to experience. Continue to post in this thread or your personal journal. Many of us here are ready to listen and encourage you. I'm not just saying this out of pity. I've been there. For 3-4 years, there have been several times I wanted to end it all. But I just can't because there's just this life I want to live. If this would help you, I'm 28 y/o guy, still a virgin, and I don't have a girlfriend. I' haven't been in a romantic relationship in my life. I also relapsed weeks ago, and I thought I couldn't handle the frustration and self-hate. But here I am. People like us still exist. You're young bro. We have our issues, but taking your life isn't the answer. Send me a private message, if you want. I'm one here to listen. We're all here to listen.
I used to be like you, but just a news flash, girlfriends are really not all they are hyped up to be. They are not going to fix any of your problems. Comparison is the thief of joy, so dont define yourself by other people. You dont need a girlfriend right now. You are not a psychopath. You say you want to commit suicide and you matter to no one. Well i'm tell you I do love you, and I'm telling you that you need to change things. There is not a man on this earth who is worth their weight who has not thought of or attempted suicide. I would venture to say that everyone on this board has thought of it very seriously at many points in there lives, or even made attempts that really did threaten there life. I know I have. So this is not a point for how sorry you need to feel for yourself. You are apart of a very large club. Dust yourself off and see that you want to become better. Killing yourself is not a solution, it is not an escape, it will not free your soul from troubles. Your soul is eternal and loved by God. Obviously you think there is something better out there for you and you want it bad enough to keep living. Step one: if you want this thing, dying is not an option. I'm going to be rather blunt with you, because I love you, and you matter to me: it is time for you to be a Real Man. When you decide that you want to Man up, all excuses are going to disappear. You need to get a piece of paper and write down the truest version of yourself you want to be: Confident, social, well rounded, happy, the best job in the world you could have- whatever you really want to be. Even write down who would be the perfect wife for you, in every way you can think. Just write down whatever comes to your head, no filter. Start writing this stuff for 30 minutes, an hour if you need to. get detailed, do not hold back. Now take that list, and go on google and look up how you can achieve those qualities that you desire for yourself. This is going to take time to build yourself up, but you will see the results in your life very immediately if you follow through with this seriously. God is watching and is ready to give us everything we want if we just ask for it and live righteously. I have a parable for you. When a baby tries to start walking, how many times does the baby need to fall down before the baby just quits? Sounds dumb, doesnt it? Because the answer is the baby does not quit. The baby keeps trying until he gets it. No wonder why everyone you see walks. Now adults on the other hand have trained themselves to quit when they fall down to much. this is why people live lives they dont want, because they quit. Because they settle for less. You have settled for less, but you are not allowed to do that anymore, so go out and keep trying to do it. You have not failed, you are here. You know there is a solution. Failure is giving up. There is no failure. Love, EoT
