Question in Day 30

What the Christ are you saying Batman?

Why would you want to gawk at random women?

 

Hey ChristLevi. By trying to avoid looking at porn and checking out girls in public at all costs, you're giving yourself less possible triggers to fail. There's nothing wrong with admiring the body of a woman, it's more about why you are looking. My suggestion would be to continue doing with what you are doing now, especially since you are still in a relatively early stage in your reboot and it could easily cause you to give in. Give your mind some more time to heal, 30 days is a fantastic benchmark and you can be proud of it.

But you should try and aim for 90 days, it does seem like a long time but look at how far you've already come. You can do this, just take it day by day. Good luck!

 

A lot of guys i know practice the 3 second rule. You are allowed to look at and admire a beutiful women for 3 seconds then look away.. look you are going to see attractive women in life. You cant beat yourself up for seeing them. But gawking and following them around is too much.. also dont go to places just to check out girls while in reboot. Wait until you have fully rebooted then start to date and goto places to talk to women. But untile you get there, just give yourself a break, see attractive women and count to 3 then look away. It gets us out of perfectionism.. you might also want to bless them with a prayer to help change your thinking about women that has been distorted by porn. Like "god thank you for your daughters."

 

Don't look.It will only increase your urges.

 

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