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Worried I am about to relapse

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Aray192, Aug 6, 2014.

  1. Aug 6, 2014 #1
    Aray192

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    For some reason I have been having a really tough day with it. I was so close to actually getting off but I managed to stop myself. I have been so horny lately that its been making me kind of anxious and in a bad mood. It has been non-stop all day and I have had a lot of free time today despite my attempts to occupy it. There have been two instances now where I started (without P) and stopped before climax or the edge of climax (though I was definitely close to the edge the second time). I had started to read that it can be healthy to do it 1-3 times a week and was thinking maybe just doing it without P from now on would be fine.

    However I feel like there has to be something wrong if I am feeling unable to restrain myself or if it is causing me distress not to do it. IDK I'm a little torn about it because I know I had started to have issues with staying aroused during sex but I was wondering if that might just be porn related, but then I wasn't sure if I could just MO without P or if relapsing with one would probably lead to the other. I'm just really confused right now and a little distressed and horny all at the same time. Any insight that could help would be much appreciated...

    I feel like I should at least be able to make it to 7 days without issue :/ I mean I am almost 22 and a boy and all and I have always had a high sex drive but I feel like stress should not be a natural part of abstaining from masturbation or sex for such a short period. I had also noticed before I took that challenge that I was beginning to become stressed when I went to long without real sex so now I am starting to worry I have maybe a MO, P, and Sex problem :/
     
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  2. Aug 6, 2014 #2
    MelancholyWeightlifter

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    PMO/sex was a way to deal with stress for you. I think for a lot of us that was the case. With that gone you need to find a new way to deal with your stress. Things like meditation, reading, working out etc. work well.

    The horniness will pass. Breathe through it. There's probably nothing wrong with you, your body is trying to adapt to the new situation.

    You may choose to masturbate (though I recommend you don't for a myriad of reasons) but just know there is really no health benefit to it. Those studies are bull.
     
    MelancholyWeightlifter, Aug 6, 2014
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  3. Aug 6, 2014 #3
    KoalaDude

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    Well good job sticking it out!

    My only concern is that you're playing with the idea of M is okay without P
    I'm sure it does not happen to everyone but if you M without P for a while it may become even harder to resist P as well. Leading down to PMO once again as I have discovered in my own experience.

    Debatable, but I feel that if you really want to be free, you to give up the whole thing sad to say. Sorry to bombard you with my own opinions but seriously best of luck!
     
    KoalaDude, Aug 6, 2014
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  4. Aug 6, 2014 #4
    j3susfr3k

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    hey man,

    Let me say one thing, you are certainly capable of abstaining from P and M and O! Your balls won't shrivel up or something.

    I have had this happen to me many times and I think i can diagnose what is going on... the problem is you are doubting your ability to abstain!

    If you have doubts about the whole thing AND MORE IMPORTANTLY if you don't have the best motivation in the world to stop doing it, then you will relapse.

    the previous times i tried, i knew i was gonna fail before i even failed. My mind was not absolutely set on stopping.

    Another thing i realized is that I didn't know about all the amazing benefits that abstaining has for me!! Like the benefits are actually so worth it!

    When i can control my sexuality, my love life with my significant other improves drastically and we have a deep love.

    Thats a good enough motivation for me :)


    Hope this helps man! You are doing good man but you have to keep going!!!
     
    j3susfr3k, Aug 6, 2014
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  5. Aug 7, 2014 #5
    Aray192

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    Thanks everyone for the replies, support, and feedback. I did make it successfully through the night and it hasn't been as bad lately. Plus now I have started talking to a friend about what I am doing and have someone IRL who knows whats going on and I can use to hold myself accountable and for support (thank god for having incredibly understanding best friends). I found being able to talk about it with someone I knew was really beneficial and helped to take the stigma out of it. Someone to talk to who I didn't feel would judge me about my quest lol.
     
    Aray192, Aug 7, 2014
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