As the days add up, I find myself losing motivation.

Fap/pmo isn't the problem. Over time as libido gets strained from no sex/fap/pmo -- basically, no sexual gratification -- it's not uncommon that one will eventually begin psychologically detaching oneself from it (this can happen over the course of several attempts at nofap as well). In other words --- lack of sexual gratification = strain, and over time one's body/brain or at least psychology will try to move in the direction away from strain. That is, either satisfy it, or become as much independent of it as possible.

Likewise, in that latter case, you'll also start to lose all the benefits of being closely integrated with libido as well (perhaps, even the benefits that you didn't know to be related to it!). Similarly, as often commented in these forums --- guys will either feel "horny/restless" all the time (i.e., lots of libido when they might not be particularly seeking it), or the opposite, "flatline" (no libido when they otherwise want to have it! At least some little bit, if not lots of it!)

With regards to "motivation", among other benefits -- perhaps called "nofap superpowers" -- all of that comes from having both a high libido and being highly/closely integrated with it. None of that "horny/restless all the time" or "flatline" --- the result of the common (if not inevitable!) biological drive to try to move away from the direction of strain (i.e., the "flight" part of the "fight or flight" response!).

Not saying you should or should not continue nofap/no-pmo, but you should consider whether at this point in time your resistance to fap/pmo is strictly only to fap/pmo, or rather all of sexual gratification in general. It's one thing to move away from "strain of abstaining strictly from fap/pmo", but trying to move away from "all sexual gratification in general" is something I would highly discourage. In the latter case, you're completely giving up on libido -- well, over time that is! -- and consequently all the benefits you'll be able to then derive from it. TL;DR ---> if you're that devoted to NoFap/no pmo, you may as well go out and have sex!

 

"Once upon a time in England's east, there was a man who tried to workout like a beast, ended up calling his mom for help, ohhhh that was what he hoped the least." (Okay this is rather funny but I'll explain each verse.)

Ok so the first verse, I basically refer it to Earth and then the second verse completes the first verse meaning; There are humans in the Earth, each more competent than the other. But Do not know that competitions are only for good; when they see the Truth they will regret but it helps them not. And I ask myself, "will you not then understand?" (It's kinda religious but it's extremely helpful)

This is what I recommend you to do when the urge is the strongest:
"Look within for the better of yourself" _ Dr Doom

Yes no ones gonna be with you when your desire surrounds you but yourself so it's yourself who can defeat yourself.

It's easier said than done so good luck my friend!

 

Just advice tonytony, because I too have the same problem. I'm doing NoFap easy mode and gradually transitioning into hard mode. Basically, my plan is to quit only porn for two months(it takes two months to establish any new habit). So I will still m when I NEED to and work to distance out the times in between. I've learned I don't need sex as often as I thought I did. After two months I will work into hard mode.

I'm doing this because when I lost motivation it wasn't because of distancing myself from resolve. It was because I was not ready to give up ALL sexual release. I don't bone random girls so sex isn't an option right now. Think about it, we all have habits that have gone unchecked for years and now we try to cut off ALL forms of sexual outlets overnight and expect that to work?!? To me, that's ridiculous. Some guys can with strong determination and willpower. Others can when an event drives them to do so(loss of marriage/relationship, loss of job, performance problems, etc.)

Some guys can comment and say that my way is gay and won't work. But, i feel it will for ME. We're all different. To me, masturbstion isn't bad if it's don't in the context of control and as maintenance. Not to porn and not repeatedly to addiction. A guy took a very similar approach to the method I just described and he won!! Yeah, he won. I posted his story below. Maybe you should give it a read.

https://nofapsolideo.wordpress.com/...ut-breaking-a-sweat-after-7-years-of-failure/

 

I'm on day 37, deep in my flatline
While severly unmotivated and kind of depressed, the flatline makes me feel like i don't want no porn/ any sexual stimuli anyway, so i manage

 

Seems to me like it's just an expected result when one's ability to resist sexual gratification (to do nofap/no-pmo/etc...) significantly exceeds the sex drive's ability to compel one to satisfy it. When the former isn't exceeding the latter that frequently/overtly, the opposite symptoms -- i.e., getting "urges" or feeling "horny/restless" (when not desiring to!) -- can pop up at times. Granted, for both cases, it seems often advised here to just continue or push on with NoFap (perhaps, continuing NoFap will "eventually" (?) bring up the latter ability?)...

IMO if you're doing this to gain "nofap superpowers" or similar, it's not exactly a "bad thing" to be able to be compelled by sex drive to do certain things. It's one thing to resist it when it's compelling you to only do strictly fap/pmo, but otherwise -- you should follow this compulsion and go have sex. Else, IMO continued resistance only leads to one thing -- inability to be effectively compelled by sex drive and consequently all the benefits associated with being so highly integrated with it (benefits often attributed to having what's often called a "high libido").

 

I related with your 1st post, & understand this one. I've been in AA for 35 years, in sex addiction recovery for 12, which includes porn addiction for me. We have a saying, "Never forget your last drunk (or drug nightmare or whatever). We must always remember "what it was like" that brought us to our knees & made us get help. It's the same here. Always remember how bad it got for you, what made you desperate to accept your porn addiction & become willing to stop at nothing to find recovery. You will be a porn addict for the rest of your life! There is no "cure" for this, you have to swallow this bitter pill. What we have here is a way to arrest it, tools to pick up & add to our toolbelt, to carry with us at all times to (hopefully) prevent a devastating relapse. You may not have been arrested for your addiction, but this thing gets progressively worse, never better. The Gary Wilson video talks about our tastes in porn changing, growing in ways that give us a bigger, better "hit". Just cuz you didn't get into certain kinds of kink don't mean that some day you won't. Loss of a job, relationship, doing something illegal & getting arrested are all very real possibilities, trust me. So never forget why you came here. I suggest you write these truths down for yourself. Also, there are tons of motivational videos of all types on YouTube, I've found & love many. Check them out. Recovery is our chance to live the I've we dreamed of as kids. Never forget the power of our dreams. Never be afraid to dream big. This life is your chance! It's my ONLY chance to life a life I truly love & want. I'm not giving up on my dreams, & I hope you don't either. I will not settle for a mediocre life, job, anything - the world is full of those who have settled. I'd rather die doing everything I can to live my dream than give up & come upon my last day & ask myself why I never became the man I had dreamed of becoming. Fill your days with good, healthy, fun activities, & employ yourself to spend time daily to pursue your goals & dreams. Treat it like a job, but this job will make you excited to wake up in the morning. It will draw you in & energize you. C'mon, get your head in the game & do this. I'm always looking for trudging buddies.