Comments on Profile Post by Immature

Hang in there. What was a good motivation tool in years past?

In the distant past, the thought of getting laid was a good motivation for a lot of stuff. Now, not so much, due to the incredible unlikelihood of it. Before you start: 63, short fat and homely. Only one of those can be remedied, and things aren't going too well on that front, though I did walk .43 miles tonight - slowly.

It's a start. With as good as you are to the one lady, I think there's room for more giving in your life. Keep looking for opportunities - the game isn't over just yet, sir! I'm sure we'll hear about you clocking 2 miles soon enough -- keep up the good work :)

[quote]With as good as you are to the one lady[/quote]If you mean my friend in the city, that's not helping me - it costs too much and depresses me. I certainly could do more with/for family.

Agree. Yes, I meant her and her son. Even if it's not good for you, it shows the good within you. I see it that way, for sure. Though all else may be in flux, #NoFapFamily is here :)

I'm enabling her to not have a real job. And I gave her son tablets and smartphones without parental controls or monitoring. He's 15, I finally put parental monitoring/controls on there - he's watching porn. In fact he was watching porn years ago. But until last October, I never dreamed of the ill effects. I was in the "boys will be boys" sort of mode.

And worst: I've denied them the experience of being *really* poor. That experience may suck, but it could have been motivation for her to get a job, and him to take school more seriously. (Though he has a learning disorder, so I'm not sure that school is even of any use for him.)

It all just sucks. I may have helped, but I've harmed as well.

The same things happen with my own children. They do have to make their own mistakes. Your desires to help are worthy of respect. I've read you talk about them before. Hopefully there's other things you can find that are more aligned with what you'll feel is worthwhile.