bro, you are spot on ! I've tried to tell him this before, but he doesn't listen. It's all about your own actions and decisions. No one will fight this addiction for you, you have to have the balls to do it, but it's not going to happen, when you deplete them everyday. :C
Well, few days ago he was at 7 days, at least he beat his old record of 6 days, which is something, and then, when i saw this, i was glad that he finally managed to do it, and told him to try to make it to 8 days at all cost, and then the next day he relapsed... :X :X :X
I know you guys are trying to help, but I don't think you understand what this kid is going through. I don't think I do, either. But everyone really just wants the best for themselves.
An attitude isn't something you always have control over. No. It's not. I know what you're thinking. It's conventional wisdom that you always have control over your attitude, but it's not true. There's plenty of other things that people take for granted in this world that completely screw up a person's ability to have a good attitude. For instance, toxicity.
What you can do is get different lifestyle habits, eat healthier, and detox. I noticed he was getting better, then he got a vaccine, and said on here that everything was fuzzy. Lord of Cinders Gwyn, you NEED to watch that video. I'm not fucking around here. I'm tired of watching people like you ruin their lives on mainstream pharmaceuticals.
Really Lord of Cinders Gwyn if what hisoka4 says is true then you need to take her advice. I understand what your trying to say hisoka4 its too easy to judge quickly, but I still think there is something that can be done about how much let a negative mood affect us. I've been in many fucked up ways with drugs and alcohol, depression and anxiety, panic attacks, so I should know better.
Okay yes Rapparee (and Never_Return_There) I agree it is true that there is a lot that cultivating a healthy attitude can do to help. I just get mad whenever people assume that it's all the attitude that is to blame. I've been there where I'm honestly trying as hard as I can to be positive, healthy, strong and productive, and I open up to people about my issues
and they just assume I'm just not "trying enough" to have a positive attitude, or that I don't really "want" to succeed. I don't know if Lord of Cinders Gwyn feels the same way I do, but it would always crush me and make it even harder to maintain my confidence.
There's a lot that having an accurate knowledge of how to really be healthy can do to you, too. The feelings of anxiety and depression that Lord of Cinders Gwyn are going through are the body's way of telling you that something is wrong. But you don't rationally know what's wrong, so you just feel crappy all the time and don't know what to do.
Eating healthy, no processed foods, eliminating the toxins, growth hormones, and GMOs in non-organic foods is a really good place to start. It might not fix everything, but it will almost definitely help. Sometimes it takes a couple months to start to feel the changes as your body is still clearing out the junk from your old diet.
Maybe Lord of Cinders Gwyn isn't going through what I've been dealing with. I'm sorry if I missed the mark. I just wanted him to feel supported if he keeps feeling misunderstood by people on here (who all have good intentions) and to have some solutions that perhaps he hasn't known about until now.
First, let me tell you that i don't agree with you, and i wish we had more than 420 characters allowed on comments so we could have a better discussion. If you want, we can make a mutual conversation so we could talk about it more broadly.
Now i don't think the problem is where you mentioned. I think it comes from the fact that this guy is a CHRONIC FAP ADDICT for 6 or 7 years, and almost everyday of his life he has relapsed, and even more than once a day sometimes maybe. For so much time, this can cause you very serious problems. Plus he is not the only one with these symptoms and complaints. Other chronic fappers experience the same things too.
The thing is, that he has abused himself so much, that the only perceivable reality for him has become fapping everyday. So it's hard for him to wrench out, but it's not impossible. And it's very hard to not want to fap, if you have this solid past of relapses behind you.
But as we know, his hand is not going to grab his organ automaticly and start relapsing without his own will and intention to do so. I've said this before SO MANY TIMES... It's all a matter of decision and choice. Thus, it makes it a matter of attitude. All other things are side factors.
It comes down to a behavioral model of an addiction and a mentality of an addict. Yes, it's true that his body is telling him something is not okay, and he knows what is it very well, he just loves doing it and it has distorted him so much, that he loves to complain about himself here and has homosexual aptitudes besides all depression and anxiety.
The fact that he managed to make it to 7 days without relapsing and beat his previous record of 6 days proves that it's about will and decision. I gave up trying to help this guy when i realized that no matter how much help i give him, he doesn't use it and doesnt want to. So i considered it useless to offer my help and waste time.
The brain of this guy is a total mess. His pleasure receptors are burnt off, and his prefrontal cortex probably stops working when the usual dosage of dopamine is not received, which makes him want to relapse so bad, that nothing else stands in his sight.
Plus he suffers all the other psychological negative effects of PMO addiction, like not being able to concentrate, lack of motivation and seriousness, lack of driving force, self destructive thoughts, low self esteem, unappreciation of existence, anxiety, depression, and apathy in some cases.
What he really needs to do is start getting healthy physically, cut out junk food, probably see a naturopath and get his gut microbiome balanced, and possibly go through a detoxification program
Alright, I've thought a little bit more about this, and I decided to delete the other comments I've posted besides the last one. I can't know what is going on in Lord of Cinders Gwyn's head, and you could be right.
But I do think that taking a new approach to his health would help him. I'm worried because he went for 7 days without M and felt "worse than ever", as he said, which may mean he needs to try a different approach to getting his life together.
He may just need to power through and do longer nofap streaks, as you're suggesting. But if he takes some of the health advice I posted, it could take the edge off. Lord of Cinders Gwyn, if you make sure to cut all the junk out of your diet, I bet it will help you at least somewhat. It can't hurt.
Yes, true, diet plays a big role and it could influence positively his recovery. I also have made a lot of research about processed foods and what are the healthiest diets for a human, and also have interests in naturopathic medicine and curing different diseases with natural methods, i'm against all that junk food. And i too think that vaccines are dangerous and full of poisonous compounds and live viruses.
But i think him feeling worse than ever on his 7th day streak simply has to do that he has deprived himself of the pleasure that he has received daily for so long, and his brain craves it like crazy. Also, he surely experiences some nasty withdrawal symptoms, which is very normal.
But no one said it'll be easy. It's not easy for me even now, far ahead. I remember when i had the withdrawals, there was a period of maybe 2 months when i had depression like crazy, and i couldn't escape it, and then suicidal thoughts started coming, and my overall health was not good at all. But i muscled through it, and decided that i am not going to give up that easily.
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