Comments on Profile Post by Halpherisdusfrey

But i try to make judgement based on what i know, information and what to me is anchored, like basic knowledge about communication, about when you wake up you need to eat breakfast (i had a fuss w my bro this morning).

And since i may conflict with a person on this problem, this aspect of them, it doesn’t mean they are overall bad.

Like the person i sweared “Asshole” in the “conversation with your abuser” story of me in Sep 12th, to his aspect of communication to some, he was indeed an asshole. But in other aspects like studying? Treating his people/friends/family?

I don’t know :)

So nobody is absolutely perfect. And that’s why i may called him “asshole” in the context of the communication of him. But in other aspects? I have no information.
So no judgement on that.

Like me. In the aspect of Nofap? I’m good :)
In the aspect of my Electrical Engineering major? Not that great, still a lot to learn.

“Seek to understand, then to judge” is the motto of me - as me leading an ISTJ personality :)

So if in a hypothetical situation where i meet him? Just basic communication, “hi and bye”. It’s up to the situation to decide what to do. Otherwise, a greet is least and enough to remain polite.

So though i know my freakin horrible language i told my story to you of the conversation with the person, to be honest,

I don’t want to holding grudge or think bad about anyone. It’s just “River water does not violate with the well water”, it’s just he doesn’t fit me, neither do i.

I don’t hope to get along with everyone everything i meet. It would be a disaster:)

I mean like broad variety of people, dozens or hundreds... if all people stay in a small corporation like a company, it’s a different thing.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CT9vbDdFuSX/?utm_medium=copy_link - this reel of Morgan Harper Nichols makes me realize (interesting reel :)

This makes me realize i can sympathize for other’s inconsistencies

Cause no one is perfect, neither do i. And i tell them what is their inconsistency through the conflict. They take it and change themselves or not, I don’t have control on that.

Just “River water does not violate well water” (an idiom) and no holding grudge is the best, for my mind to working and studying.

And to the come-and-go relationships, just “no expectations” to people are the best.

And maybe to “family/relatives” relationships too. They are may display the wrong I longed to correct - but i need to step out and look clear. Talk with calm and serene manner. Real calm.

Cause sometimes i overtalk to my bro and he’s being tired of my long speech. I read some articles about giving and taking advices too, one from Harvard Business Review.

And to me, I acknowledge this and many of my weakness and continue to work on those “inconsistencies” of work.

And some weaknesses and frustrations in communication with others too.

I guess this is with most of us. So let’s not worry about that. We can also question ourselves who on earth is a perfect human being. Literally there’s none. If a person is famous he might have some family problems. If he’s poor he has monetary problems. The fact is that a human can never be satisfied with what he has so I guess this is Normal human tendency to be imperfect. BTW I am a ENFJ. :)

I think that’s what makes this world a beautiful place to live in. Everyone can be their own selves there’s no pressure of being a perfectionist. We often get overwhelmed by recent happenings and our emotional health but when we look about life in others perspective it is a lot different. I hope you get this point. :)

@helloguyz got cha dear. “Look about life in different perspectives” is what i’m trying to do man :)

@helloguyz Communication to people sometimes harsh and hard to get to-the-point - if our ego or theirs too high.

Giving advice coming from a self-less place. It’s about the valid and useful advice, not about who’s giving it and never be :)

@helloguyz (from The Art of Giving and Taking advice of Harvard Business Review)

As i remember, @palindromo is an ENFJ? Is my memory right?

Yes. I think we have such different personalities with yours that a confrontation would be interesting

i wish i can agree with her that its ok too be human but i cant do it,

@palindromo anyone can be confronting, any personality can do that. Enough drive and suffer, it will happen @@

@{Ananta} no idea man @@

ok man

Some people really struggle to communicate...
https://www.njlifehacks.com/how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people-dale-carnegie/
This ancient book to the basic of how to life with people. They are all obvious tips that people forget

sorry for the semantic errors. This is a good summary of the book. It can be read in 2 hours

@palindromo I see. Those tips are actually quite... manipulative and i'm not sure I can communicate this way. Except those with listening people's story and give critics in private. And this way of communication kinda flattery and too many words, not my usual kind of to-the-point communication.
Consider Dale's an ESTP

@palindromo (https://www.personality-database.com/profile/48962/dale-carnegie-writers-literature-classic-mbti-personality-type) with Fe tertiary and ISTJ me with Fi tertiary - both Fe and Fi is kinda different from each other, ofc as me I want to give my compliment real honest and care to people because I really do, not just... you know, ask them to do something or such (?). :(

For sure he has a different personality. But i don't agree with these profiles created by votes. Like Jesus was an ENFJ , please...

@palindromo well, idk :) that's how people type celebs based on what they show... i mean, i don't go there to vote cause i don't know much but yeah, it does show the person holding a type @@