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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Psyonide, Aug 28, 2014.

  1. Aug 28, 2014 #1
    Psyonide

    Psyonide Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone,

    I'm a first timer, found this website and am grabbing hold of it. A little bit about me;

    I started masturbating at the age of 12. As a Christian (I've come on here for help not religious debate so please keep any opinions to yourself) as soon as I was old enough to realise what I was actually doing I wanted to quit but was already addicted.

    Now at the age of 20 I've recently been hired as a youth pastor at my church. This is the dream job for me, and I love what I will get to do. But my addiction is eating away at my relationship with God (again, not here for religious debate, so just humor me in this) and makes all that I will start teaching the young people hallow as I can't follow it myself.

    I want to quit looking at porn and masturbating so that I can be more authentic in my work and in my relationships. The nature of my job is relational, so if I can't be open and honest in my relationships, then I won't be any good at the job that I've always wanted to have/do.

    If anyone has any tips (or comes from a similar viewpoint) then pleases let me know.
     
    Psyonide, Aug 28, 2014
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  2. Aug 31, 2014 #2
    Dogwood

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  3. Aug 31, 2014 #3
    Once&4ALL

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    Psyonide, I have walked in your shoes. I can tell you that unless you conquer PMO, it will be a negative effect in your ministry and can be potentially career-ending in the Church if exposed. I recommend the following steps to you, and I will be praying for you specifically. If I can be of any resource to you, post it here or PM me. God bless!

    IF you do these things and get fully educated, it goes a log way to fighting the urges and building a great streak.

    1. Share your story - you've nailed this one already!
    2. Set up a porn blocker on your computer and all other devices.
    3. Get yourself an accountability partner on this site, and locally if you have a close friend you can safely confide in.
    4. Visit www.yourbrainonporn.com to understand the science of the addiction so you can battle it with wisdom.
    5. Watch The Tedtalk here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU
    6. Read posts here daily and update your journal daily - you'll understand others' experiences and how they may relate to you and be immersed in ongoing communication that we'll be daily assets for you while also helping others.
    7. Set realistic goals and add a counter to help you and everyone see your progress - small steps seem very achievable and build confidence - large ones may make you feel like it is useless. I suggest picking one day past your longest streak to date, or less if the longest "seems" unachievable at present.
    8. Ask questions along the way - we're here to help each other. Nobody will judge you here - we're here for ourselves and one another.

    Welcome to the team! Let's fight the battle against PMO and make some progress together!
     
    Once&4ALL, Aug 31, 2014
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