30 days clean

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  1. Newlife33

    Newlife33 Fapstronaut

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    I played paintball this weekend, went out and saw a concert, danced my face off to some drums and bass music, played golf and had a wonderful weekend. I talked to Men, Women, children, old people, young people and the like. And the crazy thing is I would take a look at my clock and think it was really late, and it would still be only like 7:30. I'm doing so much yet it feels like I still have a ton of time.

    This is my seventh 30th day streak in the past 2 years. Every time before, I have failed, with my longest being 35 days. About seven years ago I had a year-and-a-half streak, but I haven't been able to get back there since.

    This time it feels like I'm going to get back to a longer streak and feel better because I'm not focused on getting laid or women or a relationship. I'm just focused on having a good life and doing things to make me feel happy and give me good emotions. That's really what it's all about for me.
     
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  2. vad

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    Well done mate!!
     
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  3. TheFlash123

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    That's excellent !!
    I'm happy for you, and keep it up !!!
     
  4. happah

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    great to be off P for so long .How do you feel now?
     
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  5. goodnice 2.0

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    wonderful, put a smile on my face
     
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  6. Homo Deus

    Homo Deus Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    Great! Gz! keep going! good luck!
     
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  7. Silverson

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    Great Bro! I hope be there soon. I am in a similar position as you. I Just want to make it over 7 days and I will be proud of myself too.

    Any good advise / suggestions in how to make it?
     
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  8. Spartan Shibz

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    I can give some advice as I remember thinking that 7 day is impossible! But it's possible. What one man can do, another man can do.

    You need to take each day as it comes. Focus on the day. Be aware of your emotions and the circumstances that lead to P use. Put blocks and filters in place. Why risk it? Especially in the early part of your reboot. Take all the help you can get.

    Make sure you have safety behaviours in place in case you get triggered. I like going for a walk and getting some air.

    I would plan something to look forward to on your target day. That way you'll have a sense of joy and positive expectation for the day, instead of an anxious fear that you might relapse. You may still feel anxious, but doing stuff you enjoy and looking forward to stuff definitely helps keep the anxiety/negative emotions at bay.
     
  9. You_ll_succed_for_sure

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    Keep doing. See you on the 90 days.
     
  10. Son of Midgaard

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    Hope you continue to thrive!
     
  11. Silverson

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    Many thanks for your reply!
    Yes finally, I made it to 7 days :) I feel fantastic!

    True! I like your quote "What one man can do, another man can do." Sometimes we forget it.

    Funny thing is that before reading this I was walking 6.2 km yesterday and today too after work. Walks really helps me. Like you said. Just makes the time go instead of sitting at home with the possibility to fab during boredom/slow hours.

    What filter did you use on your computer and phone? I would like to know in order to download it as well.

    Good idea! What kind of stuff did you do as a treat when you reached your targets?
    I am just not used to success with this addiction so I do not know what to do.
     
  12. Spartan Shibz

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    Awesome! You should feel proud. I seldom ever compared myself to other rebooters. Going just a week without porn for someone who used everyday is a great accomplishment. Never look at the 90 day streakers and put yourself down. For some, just breaking passed the mental barrier of "I don't think I can get passed 7 days'' and then smashing passed 7 days, that feeling must be like someone who achieves their first 30 day streak. Remind yourself that you are on your own journey and that you are doing what works best for you. We don't need to compare ourselves to others. Comparison is the thief of joy! We are on our own journey. A porn free life is our goal.

    I use cleanbrowsing for my Mac. It's very good! Very effective. Best of all, its free! You may have heard of K9, which is very popular. This is way better than K9. I've used both.

    I use spinbrowser for my Samsung, which is also free. But I opted for an upgrade to the browser which costs just over £3 a month. The upgrade(called ManageSpin) has made my phone pretty much bulletproof! It's so much more than a porn blocker though. Check them out and feel free to ask me anything about either of them.

    You can treat yourself in anyway you want. I like to go out with friends, go to the movies or do something fun with the family. Its doesn't have to be anything crazy or expensive. The main thing is just to reward yourself with something to reinforce the positive emotions/feelings of being porn free. :)
     
  13. Silverson

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    Sorry for the delay with my reply!

    True words, we should never compare ourselfes to others and actually I think that is part of my success right now.

    Nice! I have used your advise in regards to Spinbrowser on the phone and used DNS family filter from OpenDNS. I like it more than Cleanbrowsing since Cisco supports it. Anyways thanks a lot for the help. I have learned a lot about what DNS means and what it does. Cool stuff :)

    Yes, I think I will treat myself with good meals out when I have reached goals or just feel good over my accomplishments so far :) Right now I am on 14 days PMO free even tough if I only wanted to be porn free :) I have never imagined I would go 14 days feeling this good.
     
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  14. kjsi

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    Just keep going. You're not alone! Think we're all doing this with you even though it's out of sight! Accept the congratulations and believe you deserve it. If you stumble that's all it is - a stumble!
     
  15. Spartan Shibz

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    Very well done! Great job.

    Be vigilant. I've noticed that when put together a decent mini streak, I start feeling great, loose focus and I end up relapsing! It's happened a couple of times.

    Keep going. Give your self permission to feel great. Be proud of yourself. But don't loose focus.
     
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  16. Froger

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    Congrats brother.
     

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