Hello, it has been 45 days since my last PMO, 15 more days to my second milestone of 60 days and halfway to 90 days, which is my third and last milestone set for myself on 3rd February 2017, the day I probably would never forget. The first week was the toughest, but as I progress through the weeks, it started becoming a bit easier. There were definitely some ups and downs over the past few weeks and there are many more weeks to go. But I am glad that I am able to reach where I am currently at, as compared to some, who have made it through like 10 months or years. I would say I am still battling with social anxiety, which I think PMO only made it worse since I have always been a relatively shy person. Being an introvert, I also like to spend some quiet time to reflect before speaking up in social situations if needed. However, that usually does not go the way I want or expect, so I end up not talking in those situations for the most part. Confidence, I would say, is another intangible that I have gained over the past few weeks. But I am still working on talking to other people comfortably or specifically girls because PMO has affected the way I view them in the past. Hopefully, I can continue to put myself through these small steps or challenges to get better in the long run. This Thursday is my last psychology tutorial class for the semester and there is a girl I have a strong interest in. I didn't manage to muster up the courage to talk to her for the past 3 tutorials, which span across a total of 6 weeks. This is probably the last chance I will get to see or talk to her, which I don't intend to miss out. This is the first time in such a long time since I felt this emotion that I can't really describe in words (I started PMO when I was 17), and I have never dated anyone before. But I am not thinking of starting a relationship or anything. Just like to step out of my comfort zone and ask her whether she wants to have coffee with me sometime (probably get her phone number too ) I think she is really pretty and would like to get to know her better. I expect rejection, but hey, if I don't ask, the answer is always "No" right? Well, if any of you have any suggestions or tips, you can reply me! It's appreciated. I probably post what happened this upcoming weekend. In summary, I think that PMO has destroyed the natural way we are supposed to feel. Authenticity and real emotions are somewhat blocked by all these pornography images that we have exposed ourselves to for so long. I would never want to get back to it again because PMO is just a false illusion of making me feel better about myself. It is definitely a bad thing and I just hope that society can address it on a deeper level or increase greater awareness. It is silently destroying the lives of many young male teenagers, without people knowing. With high-speed internet, accessing pornography is just a few clicks away, you can even find pornography on Youtube, for goodness sake. This journey is still a far-fetched one, and I certainly hope that I can achieve greater mental clarity and follow many of you on this journey towards creating the best version of yourself and living a fuller life. Stay strong.
Hey man! Great job and good luck! In your case with this girl- if you're nervous about doing this then too much advice is probably bad advice, so I'll keep it simple(Trust me I've been there.. a lot). You don't want to be thinking too much when you approach her. My best advice is embrace the entire experience - both the good and the bad. Embrace that nervous energy and treat it like an ally or a source of fuel to make you much more attractive. My old buddy used to say it best when approaching girls - "Whether you're feeling good or feeling bad, love that feeling." Good luck and enjoy it man!
Hey friend, you are right, If you don't ask her, always always the answer will be a enormous NO. Now you have more confidence than before, and you project it, them can realize. And If she says no, you are going to get experience, and at least she will realize that you exist and she interest you, maybe in the future something can pass. So don't stop friend, this way to eliminate PMO, is because we want to change many things in our lifes, and if you find a girl, she can became a motive to motivate you, and your results can improve a lot. Go my friend, and independent to the answer don't stopppp
