Hey everyone, I read occasionally on here, but finally wanted to reach out for some help for myself. I don't know when I realized I had a problem, but I guess I have just become more self aware and am finally seeing that what I have been doing is not going down a good road. I started masturbating at a young age, almost 26 now. I am currently on the 8th day of a streak because I want to get a handle on things in my life. All throughout my history masturbating, I have been creating and feeding certain types of fetishes...not explicitly porn, but in a way, we can say it's my porn. I've trained myself to become aroused and turned on by it in an instant. It's not healthy because I want to get married and have a family and be able to love and please my future wife. I realize I need to get a handle on it now before I enter into that arena. I am consciously avoiding my triggers, removing them, trying to retrain my brain to not get affixed on that anymore. My questions are: A) Is there a hope for me to retrain myself to become aroused in "normal circumstances" if I abstain from MO using my fetish material? B) Is a flatline something that I must go through...like if I am not rewarding myself with how my body is accustomed? Will nature begin to run its course? Last night, I had this kind of weird lucid dream experience where I was either dreaming I was masturbating and/or I was hard as a rock in real life...I'm not really sure what was going on. I think it was a dream, but I am aware that I was thinking about the stuff that I am trying to get rid of from my mind. C) Is that normal? To complicate matters, I am a virgin...so I don't exactly have experience to say that I cannot become aroused to a woman in real life, nor can I say that I have PIED. If I fantasize about a woman, I can become hard in certain instances. But the intensity of my erections are not like my fetish type erections.... I just feel that right now, I am creating destructive sexual desires if I don't reboot myself to improve and focus on what I want to. I have this belief (probably wrong) that I feel I should be able to get hard just by looking at a girl..and I can't - that worries me. I need advice on how to proceed. I've never had wet dreams before because of my frequency/need to masturbate. I always took care of myself. I can abstain if that is best, or I can just relive myself with vanilla masturbation. I don't know if I should just continue to abstain like I am and let my body do what it needs - nocturnal emissions/senescence or safely relieve myself until I have rooted out these bad desires. I just want to regain what I think a male's sexual desire should be - hopefully I'm not a lost cause.