Addicted to girlfriend ASMR's

I feel ya, girlfriend roleplay ASMR is usually what I go to. I find I watch it when I feel lonely, but watching it never helps me feel better. Beating yourself up about it won't help either.

Finding a friend helps a lot. We could be friends, what kind of stuff are you interested in?

 

Girlfriend ASMRs are a slippery slope for me. I have ADD so I rarely stick with the same video or even the same channel for more than a couple days at a time but I have learned to just avoid the girlfriend ones altogether. At best, they make me feel lonely. At worst, they can lead me down a rabbit hole until they get really suggestive and sensual, even on YouTube, and can lead me to PMOing. I still prefer female ASMRtists but I tend to stick with non-flirty stuff like doctor roleplays. I will also say, however, that I use ASMR for sleeping or focusing on reading and schoolwork, not for loneliness. Everybody has different preferences.

As cliche as it may seem, I've found that I have had more "successful" relationships when I quit thinking about how badly I wanted a girlfriend and stopped trying so hard to find one. Some may find that to be an easy attitude to live out but, for me personally, it's very difficult to really believe that I'm content with myself and don't need someone special to be happy.

As for needing a girlfriend, I suggest you focus on being the best version of you that you can be. If there's something you believe you need to improve about yourself, go out and do it! NoFap is a great place to start! In addition to that, while it may be difficult with all this pandemic stuff, find things you can do outside of your house that you truly enjoy and go out and do them! Embrace what makes you "you" and live that out! That's what I'm actively trying to do. I'm convinced that if you can do that, eventually you'll start to meet new people with similar interests that see you enjoying yourself and becoming more confident in yourself and want to be a part of it! It may still feel bleak and empty at times but don't lose hope! Be patient for the *right* one! Not just the first one that smiles at you. Hang in there, mate!

 

That's putting it really bluntly but yeah, I agree with this. Not saying I've arrived at that point yet myself but I acknowledge that's where I need to be and I'm working to get there. Self-respect/self-love is important.

 

Also, feeling needy, coming from a place of emptiness and despair hardly good recipe to keep a girlfriend. Unless you just wan't to know if you could get one at all.

 

Don't believe the hype man. Behind closed doors another story normally, no longer a fairytale..