Addiction to Orgasm/Ejaculation

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by seaguy44, May 23, 2020.

  1. Hey Guys

    I'm just frustrated right now because my whole day is basically revolved to the release of ejaculation.

    Let me explain:

    I wake up. I do my routine which varies from day to day but being in a quarantine, it's pretty much the same. Then randomly I get the "urge"/craving and while I'm having the urge, it's the ONLY THING I CAN THINK OF. I lose the ability to focus. My motivation to work, etc is gone. I get really horny.. it can be middle of work, etc... so I go to my bed and jack off then watch a quick porn video then ejaculate.

    After my ejaculation, I finally can focus. I feel calm. I can work. I can do activities, etc. Sometimes hours later, I get the 2nd urge/craving. I lose the ability to focus so I go to bed, jacking off then ejaculate for the 2nd time.

    What frustrates me the MOST is this: The ejaculation process is like only 10 seconds, THAT'S IT. My entire day basically revolves to this 10 SECOND LONG ACTION. That's it. I wash my hands longer than 10 seconds. I brush my teeth longer than 10 seconds. I shower longer than 10 seconds. You get the idea.

    It's so frustrating to see how I'm so addicted to an activity that just takes 10 seconds of ejaculation. That's it! I get it that Dopamine from my orgasm has hacked my brain and I need that dopamine... but it's really frustrating.

    I understand that as a male I have a biological urge to spread my seed when I have sex with a girl. I enjoy sex so I get it, but it's annoying to have this biological urge ruling my life every single day!

    I wish humans were designed to have biological sex urges once a month, instead of having this everyday.

    Anyone can relate to this?

    Thanks!
     
  2. hollyman

    hollyman Fapstronaut

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    so when u fap ? are ur dick hard or flat/flacid ?

    and when the 10 second happen do you fap ur dick or its just ejaculate Un controlable ?


    i used to be uncontrolable while flat dick when ejaculate, maybe because of death grip.
     
  3. pajerito123

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    hey bro nice to hear from you

    i have the exact same problem. i think its a way to relieve the stress.

    Try to jerk off without porn or fantasizing about girls, instead focus on the sensation. It will take you more than 10 seconds for sure, in fact, you will get boring and feel the desesperate need to watch some porn. I think maybe the imagination is the adiction not the act of masturbate or ejaculate.

    I have a question if you mind... Do you feel tired after the sesion?

    good luck bro keep it strong
     
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  4. I just fap (jack off). Maybe Death Grip contributes to that feeling. I don't know
     
  5. Maybe I should try this to do without porn. Maybe it'll MAKE that session be BORING..... yes I get tired after the session. I think most men do?
     
  6. hollyman

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    i think that is caused by deathgrip tho. maybe its premature ejaculation

    btw that's 10 second or less ejaculation is one of my issue why i do serious streak on nofap. u see im 28 and not maried yet. that problem can sure damage my mariage in the future.
     
  7. Jae_90

    Jae_90 Fapstronaut

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    I am going through the same thing. I'll be talking with somebody about random stuff, then I'll see something on TV that gets me turned on that I'll want to visit a porn site. My mood changes. Then I'll get angry because I want that somebody to leave the room so I can ejaculate to feel better. I can't tell this person to leave so i’ll just sit there feeling angry/quiet and lose interest in what we were talking about prior. It's driving me crazy.
     
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  8. Exactly! You got it. The desire to have an ejaculation completely overpowers everything. I couldn’t focus on the conversation with friends.
     
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  9. Jae_90

    Jae_90 Fapstronaut

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    That is why I have no friends, because I can't focus. And this social anxiety isn't helping either :( I have to try my best to not let this overpower me, but it's hard.
     
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  10. I know how you feel. I have social anxiety too. Do you have any interests you like to do?

    The way I see this. Stopping ejaculation gives me the "productive" energy I need to use in order to focus on work, workouts, etc.

    Just an hour ago I was heavily desiring an ejaculation. Now it's better. It's an hour by hour basis for me but it gets better. Talking on NoFap helps me cope with it.
     
  11. Jae_90

    Jae_90 Fapstronaut

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    Yes, it really helps to talk about it. Before I found out about NOFap, I thought I was the only one going through this. I use to like to go on hikes, but it’s hard now because of this quarantine. I’ll just pick a spot at a park and just sit there. Enjoy the scenery. That helps me a little.
     
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  12. Know the feeling. My high school track finally have opened so I just go there to walk around the tracks. That is a huge help. I think it's important to balance your mind, body and spirit daily.
     
  13. Majorjsf

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    Hey man, of course I can relate to this. I'm thinking most every man can. Orgasm and ejaculation are indescribable feelings for us and a biological urge. Additionally, it relieves stress and can help induce sleep.

    The key, as you know, is self control. Even if you fantasize and don't use porn, it's still submitting to urges and lust, for me. At least that's how I think about it in terms of my struggle.
     

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