Alone time is a problem

I face exactly the same problem, I'm currently living in university and during the normal days of the week where I have classes I face no problem managing my time and essentially I get busy through out the whole days going to classes, studying, interacting with my friends and even when I get a little free time I still can manage it efficiently doing what I love to do such as watching YouTube, writing poetry etc.

The problem occurs during the weekends where I have a lot of free time, because essentially I'll get bored with what I usually do in my free time in the normal days and my mind always drives me to the unfortunate event, watching porn and masturbation. The problem is that you may consider me as a perfectionist meaning after I watch porn and masturbate, I'll feel like total shit and feel like I've ruined the whole weekend, because I'll feel depressed and sad, and because I've already masturbated once, I'll be like fuck it I'll masturbate the whole weekend because it doesn't matter, I've already broken my promise and the weekend goes by without any productivity, just excessive masturbation and self-resentment, and I also live in the middle east so you can't have sex unless you're married and thus I have no way to release my sexual energy except by porn and masturbation.

However, it was a long battle between me and myself and I've lost the battle hundreds of times and felt like it's impossible to stop, but the main thing that helped me overcome this addiction was first: I promised my self that I'll never look and search at anything that may trigger me. Previously I used to browse sexual content just to fill up my free time, and even though I sometimes convince my self that I'm just browsing and not masturbating, but the truth is that 85% of the times I get so aroused and break the promise, so to avoid this problem I decided not to browse and search any sexual content at all, though you'll have times where you get the strongest urges to do so,but you really need to constrain yourself and for me when I get these urges I immediately go out for a walk or take a shower till the urges go away.


The second thing that helped me overcome the addiction was that every time I decide to masturbate, I take a deep breath and remember the feeling that I will get after I masturbate, sure masturbation and following your fetishes is exciting but remember that it's just a momentarily joy and what will last is your self-confidence and the joy and the feeling you'll get if you won against your desires. Every time I seriously decide to masturbate, I remind myself about the feeling I'll get after I do so, I'll feel shit, depressed, sad and get very frustrated and angry, especially if it was a relapse after a long time of commitment and happiness and self-confidence, and just remember that the porn actors you watch will get all the money, all the fame by destroying your confidence and life even the ones being humiliated such as in extreme genre, still they will get the money, they got something out of that, but the real loser is the viewer, you lost your confidence, your happiness, you'll think less of your self especially people who were dragged by porn addiction to fetishes that destroy their manhood.

When I was addicted to porn, I always felt like I don't deserve to get a girlfriend and that i'm a loser, but after I stopped porn addiction I genuinely started feeling so much more confident, after all I did beat my hardest battle, and felt like the girls would be lucky to have someone like me, no one is like me, I've won against myself and proven that sometimes the impossible, is possible.

 

I live alone so understand your problem.
I have no simple remedy only advice that works for me...
That is to try to live a full and engaged life that does not feature porn and masturbation.

I do this by exercise, work and pastimes (to occupy the body) and meditation, self learning and engaging with people (to satisfy the mind)

Continued good luck

 

I have the same problem, alone time makes me relapse BUT the chance of relapsing is a lot higher when i drink alcohol. For anyone drinking alone that might be a huge cause. At least its for me. I want to stop drinking entirely.

 

Keep a gallon of water with you at all times. You will eventually develop an addiction to drinking water and seeing your piss clear as day. It's a good healthy dopamine change. Change a bad habit with a good one

 

Keep a gallon of water with you at all times. You will eventually develop an addiction to drinking water and having water by your side, seeing your piss clear as day instead of yellow and dehydrated. Water isn't good but it's good for you. It's a good healthy dopamine change as well for the brain. Change a bad habit with a good one.

This worked for me to rid myself of alchohol and cigarettes. Porn is next

 

You need to become the person who doesn't relapse when they are alone. The person who doesn't need to turn to PMO to deal with emotions or when they are bored.

That is it, its the hard way and it is the only way.