Anyone else who feels not in control..?

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  1. wings111

    wings111 Fapstronaut

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    I feel like everyday I have to be in a very strick control... otherwise I would do something stupid... I watch my friends "in that way.." and I see how it makes them feel, although they see I have a problem...

    I have to stay away from one of my friends. With her company I feel SO humiliated... the shame is so big that I can not control it...

    Is there anyone who feels the same?

    Desperate :(
     
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  2. Well yeah I also feel as though I need to be in control because I sometimes tend to say weird and stupid stuff an do weird and stupid things.
     
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  3. sparkywantsnoPMO

    sparkywantsnoPMO NoFap Moderator & Yeoman
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    Part of addiction recovery can include understanding you can’t be in control of everything. Things are gonna happen, feelings are going to happen. What do you do with those things? Try to bend it to your will or participate in the experience?
     
  4. Do you have social anxiety?
     
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  5. noonoon

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    Might be time to find new friends who support you.
     
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  6. wings111

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    Yes... I fear people and going to places... although i go to places but its very hard...
     
  7. wings111

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    Well I have this one place I can go in monday to friday but i just want to give up.


    Well now when... these things... sex things has showed up even more i fear that i loose her... she dont want to talk about sex things or like these things and says things very strickt if she notice me thinking these things.
     
  8. wings111

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    Hmm... I meant that what to do if when you are with your friend and she says something that reminds me of s.x? If it happens all the time... im getting tired to my head... no happiness..
     
  9. I can understand. I'd say to start off with small social interactions and work your way up.
     
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  10. sparkywantsnoPMO

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    Thoughts are going to happen. Your brain is going to “pop” things into your mind. What you have to decide is what you do with that.

    Take driving. If someone cuts you off, you may get the thought that you want to run them off the road. The longer you hold onto that thought the angrier (and worse) you feel. If you learn to let it pass, learn that you don’t have to react to every feeling, it gets easier.

    If your friend is talking about sexual topics, you may ask her to change the topic.
     

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