Anyone go from forever alone to relationship from this?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by fellowBrother, Oct 7, 2018.

  1. fellowBrother

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    Is there anyone in this forum who was totally forever alone, but found someone after nofap? I would love to hear the stories.
     
  2. realliferealman

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    lol..before Nofap,I totally forever alone,dont have any female friends,only a few male friends..At day 54 I date a girl which I met online and have sex..Now in Day 62,I invite another girl to meet up 4 days later..Still havent met someone I truly love,I also wanna to settling down asap.Besides that,I feel that a lot of old friends that long time no see suddenly appear back to my life.But definitely I can talk about any shit with girl..I just sense that the girl is in love to me when I texting her,which I never experience this before.
     
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  3. fellowBrother

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    You attribute that stuff to nofap?
     
  4. realliferealman

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    Before nofap I 1 female friend also dont have one..I dont know why,may be I dont want to find,talk or something..
     
  5. phwrancesco

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    I did.

    I was living with my parents at 24 doing nothing. I started my streak on 20 april 2017 and i was alone, in a small town with nobody but my parents.

    Noe i live in a big town alone with my girlfriend, trying to make in this world with my own strength :)
     
  6. fellowBrother

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    That's crazy bro. When did it get easy to talk to girls?
     
  7. phwrancesco

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    It's always been easy for me to talk to girls. But i was so disappointed with my sexual life that i quitted sex for almost 5 years, then i started nofap and this brought sex back in my life.
     
  8. Meditation Monk

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    Well, I don't exactly feel "alone," I stay busy with my life and hobbies. There is so much to do in life that I rarely think on the word alone. Even though I may not be socially active a whole lot, I do things that keep me preoccupied throughout my lifetimes journey.
     
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  9. PJT

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    Good question; well I started posting on this site for maybe over a year and even though I have had some relapses I think I am making progress. Lately more opportunities to talk to girls have been popping up. I've went on 3 dates thus far this year which is better than 0. Nothing has come of any of this, but I am finding myself more and more comfortable just being me around anyone and everyone. Still there is a long ways to go. I'm hoping to be that man one day.
     
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  10. SorryWontSayIt

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    I started to date my first girlfriend after starting doing nofaps. It was great and i learned a lot from it, we broke up since we both moved but we are still friends.

    Also I did not have many friends that were girls before, now I live in an other town and most my friends where I live now are girls actually. But I don't date now currently, too focused on myself and too busy for a relationship at least for this month. Maybe next month I will try get back into the dating game, even tho I would love to be in a relationship now, but then she would have to accept my busy lifestyle the next month.

    I don't know if the reason why you ask is because you struggel with talking to girls? I did struggel a lot before. But what I have learned is that they are just normal people. Don't stress, if you are shy when talking to girls. Just be yourself, and I don't joke. I used to have so little belief in myself when it comes to girls, now that majority of my friends are girls..

    But in my opinion nofap is not what attracts girls. It is because you feel better, you start to improve your life most likely in different areas in your life, and you will feel even better. Girls will notice that. Nofap alone won't do too much, some it will do more then others.

    Now I have a streak of "44" days, if I look away from one relapse, and it firstly now I feel like my life is getting well put together. I feel so great now.
     
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  11. Feed the Mind

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    I think nofap can help you transition from 'forever alone' to a relationship as long as you channel the momentum nofap gives you into other aspects of your life. If you simply go monk mode and stay at home, then I highly doubt you will get any results in terms of getting into a relationship.

    I'm on my third reboot attempt, every time I attempt a reboot, I use the momentum to improve my life in general, I start exercising again, I have more motivation to be social so I go out more, reconnect with old friends and I go back into a healthy routine. I become more confident because I am in control, I am making decisions about my life instead of letting my vices and desires push me around like a puppet.

    I hate going out to pubs and nightclubs so instead I look for activities that interest me, use MeetUp, it's great for meeting like-minded people, the girl I am dating right now I met through a MeetUp. Be proactive, use the momentum, eventually you'll be the boss you were meant to be.
     
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  12. fellowBrother

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    Well I don't really struggle with girls. I just know that if i fap I get really bad social anxiety that basically ruins my social skills. Too much adrenaline and anxiousness. When i'm deep into a streak, I can talk to any girl no prob.
     

  13. Me... i was alone 34 years, after cca 100days of NoFap I had one very short relationship I did not njoy and than I met a angel Ive spent one year together with. I cured my erection problems with her, I somehow learned to love, I learned how it feels to be loved and so much more.

    I fucked it up, did not give enough love, have not realized how much she is worth to me and she slowly ditched me :(

    Now Im the most sad and lonely man on this planet. I was shown the best things and lost them all. Cant even explain it. Its devastating. But I have a feeling, its all according to a plan.

    I needed her to ditch me!! Because it was after it happened, I REALIZED IT ALL. Before I realized nothing. Damn. This realization of what I lost and everything.. its so insanely hard.

    But there u have it.
     
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  14. OrangeJuice13

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    Thanks for this post bro, reminded me of some things I've forgotten. Oh btw
    that sounds like it would work for me, but I'm super shy of using apps/websites (idk what MeetUp is), becuase idk.. partly it feels like that's not the 'natural' way to do it i.e. I probably always thought I'd just meet someone somewhere one day and get married. But also, partly I guess I'm also shy of someone I know irl seeing me on there... do you have any thoughts on this?
     
  15. Meditation Monk

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    Well, well, well. Girls are a substitute for me for porn. I abstinate from girls because I have read on esl language course that the law can find you guilty without treason sometimes if someone accuses you. So, guys, keep that in mind every time you date girls or if you do something to them like it might hurt them later on. I read a LOT of things online. Even toons. Haha. As a stress relief. All I do now is working out and reading, and reading about porn stories makes me happy. haha.
     
  16. ".. partly I guess I'm also shy of someone I know irl seeing me on there... do you have any thoughts on this?"

    If he is there as well, than, why even care. U are at the same boat. He cant judge you.

    I think dating services can be a good servant and bad master.

    I met my gf on tinder. So what? It was the best relationship of my life.

    But be prepared... I gave 1000s likes and received like 5 likes. Thats the nature of such places. If you can get over it, its ok. It doesnt mean you a bad man because u have small amount of matches.
     
  17. Meditation Monk

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    on tinder? was that your best shot? why not at a strip club? lol, joking.
     
  18. Feed the Mind

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    Yeah, I think I know what you mean, I'm kind of the same. MeetUp is not really a dating site, it just connects people that have similar interests. People create groups and meet up. MeetUp is actually a bit dead where I live but every now and then I find something that interests me and meet some good people. I neglected my social life for a long time so something like this is brilliant to start building it up again. I think that having a good social life will lead to you meeting more women 'naturally'.
     
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  19. Bad_hombre

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    In my opinion, you have to put nofap on your self-development list if you want it to mingle with other aspects of your life. If you don't have issues with social anxiety and depression it will be a lot easier to turn your life around, all in all, the more issues you have, the more time will be needed to having the benefits of nofap spreading to other areas of your life, besides that, luck and an open mind are always a plus if you happen to have those 2 things in your life. I got the impression that there are people who are just more fortunate in life than others.
     
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    Yes. My life was a disaster, just waited for death to occur. After 90 days I hooked up with 3 tinders gfs. Had sex with 2 of them. Dumped one. The other became my gf.+
     

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