Even after years of nofap, i still indulging fantasizing sex with previous porn etc... but mostly now i crave intimacy rather than virtual, i just thinking about having sex with my crush... So i have been fantasizing about porn i used to watch and erotic with my crush mean I relapse all long? At this point I'm done doing nofap man, i seriously fucking everything is a relapse... I hate my fucking life
I'm sorry to ask, but why is relapsing such a huge problem??? As long as you don't masturbate to P, then you're fine. Try sitting with the fantasizing for a bit, meditate on it, and it'll starve off. At least you're now craving real intimacy rather than P, and that's a huge step forward. Try not to be too anxious about relapsing.
It just i don't wanna lose the process i have been done... Also after doubt relapse, my anxiety went up the roof... Also i don't feel like myself... How do i stop obsessing over relapse man? If you have any tips please provide, sometimes i feel going crazy
I used to feel the same as well, loosing the progress if you relapse once, then you have to reset the timer (for example). After a while, 100 days of no P feels the same as 200 days of no P, and the time becomes irrelevant. I don't think in terms of "loosing progress" over a slight slip up, I now think about gradual improvement on average. Even though I haven't used P in a long time, I still do M sometimes, and wish to stop soon. If you're constantly thinking about "what if I relapsed", then you're just creating more anxiety for yourself. If you relapsed, then let it be, just accept it, and focus on improving. If you think "what if I relapsed", then actually think "Yes. I relapsed.", for every single time. That way at least you don't have the downward spiral of "what if I relapsed" and you can move on and focus on improving.
